2007-01-18 18:13:44 · 25 answers · asked by patatim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you can hear a thousand advise, you can pick up new hobbies, you can get new friends, new dates
but there will be time wheny ou are alone, all memories flow back..
this is very painful, i can understand cos i am also going thru this ..
only time can heal, we just have to bite our tongue thru ....
2007-01-18 18:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kiki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've only had one major breakup (thankfully) but it was pretty bad... We were friends from aged 11 or so, and we finally got together aged 13. I suffered from manic depression during a lot of my teen years, so I went a bit off of the rails, and was drinking a lot, (whole bottles of Vodka per hour) and taking a lot of different drugs. (Pretty much everything from 13-17 is a total blur, except when I was drunk or high. It somehow gave me clarity.) Anyway, after 4 years together, I got dumped by SMS, on my 17th birthday, with the message, "Now that your meds are working and you aren't psycho anymore, you're not really as much fun. I don't think we should hang out as much anymore... I'll give you a call sometime." I never heard back, but apparently I did something terrible, and all of our mutual friends (and school pals) sided against me, and I haven't really heard from any of them since (5 years later). So yeah, that was pretty horrific. Still wonder why things happened like they did, and whether there was another reason behind it... Oh well, 4 years with my lovely boyfriend now, and I couldn't be happier.
2016-03-29 04:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that anyone ever did to help me get over a breakup was when I called a friend to say I got dumped. She didn't ask what happened, she didn't tell me it would be OK, she didn't say anything except, "Come over, we'll bake cookies."
It was great to know I had somewhere to go and something to do, when I felt like I couldn't deal with the next five minutes of life. Especially something mindless and involving food.
She never did ask or say much, she just kept me busy and let me talk when I wanted to, and made sure I wasn't alone.
So, I guess I'm saying the best way to get over it is to lean on your friends. And return the favor when they need it!
2007-01-18 18:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by EQ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
divert your focus into something that can unwind your brain
here are the simple tips that you need to understand...
there are only 5 stages of LOSS
1. denial, you may not easily accept it and try to DENY the real story
2. ANGER, it depends, it may be towards you or to them
3. bargaining .... YOU'LL THINK " if I'll do this then i can do that ....
4. Depression.. this is the most difficult but everyone of us pass in that stage
5. well ACCEPTANCE is the last.....
i may be sure that at this very moment you'll DENY the situation .. but its normal ..........
as long as you knew what will be your experiences will have....
just follow the 5 STAGES
but dont overdo the stage FOUR,
jump to the fifth stage immediately........ hope it helps
2007-01-18 18:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the specific circumstances but generally time and/or finding someone else works best. However make sure anyone else you find is worth your time. Don't start considering people you never would have in the past just to kill time.
2007-01-18 18:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by TCSO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus your mind on something else, self improvement for example, search and apply for that job you have always wanted.
Treat and pamper yourself to nice things which you never allowed yourself. Though being in love again would make all of those things so much easier.
Watch loads and loads of comedies!
2007-01-18 18:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by SOL SIREN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time and get yourself together.Learn from the relationship, the good and the bad.Think about how you want to be treated as a person and how you want to treat the next person you're involved with.Then move on.Don't play the fool's game of would've ,could've , should've.
2007-01-18 18:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a hobby or activity that you like the best and submerge yourself into the project. Time will pass, your broken heart will mend and you will find a new and improved relationship with a person that will not break your heart!
2007-01-18 18:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by Cool Wolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider that relationship as water under the bridge and get another person and move on with your life. The person you broke up with has probably done that already
2007-01-18 18:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself TIME and focus on what you've learned about yourself in the process. Find things to do to keep you busy. The pain will go away eventually.
2007-01-18 18:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by Krysta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋