My wife and I have been together for 3 yrs....Im 21 and shes 18, we were both virgins, and have only had sex with each other, when we first started having sex, it was wonderful like a few times a day but after our daughter (now 2yrs old btw) was born it decreased a lil but it was still like a few times a week. even while she was pregnant we still had great sex, but now shes pregnant with our second child, it seems to have grinded to a halt, I love her with all my heart, and would never cheat on her, just as she wouldnt cheat on me. but i just want to kno what should i do?....or is there any way to safely boost her sex drive or lower mine?
2007-01-18 18:13:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hope those who are answering you are maried and know what they're talking about, anywayz, i've been married for about 5years with 2 kids/4y&7mo and I made it my job to satisfy my wife sexually and not to pressure her for sex, as a result, when i really need it, she'll understand and give it up. but the really issue is to simply understand what shes going through and support her. when my wife was pregnant with our 7mo, i told her that my diick is a part of her pregnancy craving should she need it and she would not have to ask. meanwhile make sure you please her around the house with everything else and thats gonna bring the energy to bed and dont forget to touch her buttt or sexually oriented looks and comment to make her feel sexy.
2007-01-18 18:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by monreve_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a married woman with 3 children, I say the best thing that you could do to make your wife want to have sex with you is to help her with the kids, help around the house, don't wait to be asked, wait on her every need, give her some quit time by herself. I promise this is what a mother wants. If you satisfy her needs (remember her needs aren't the same as yours and probably have nothing to do with sex) then she will be more likely to feel like satisfying your needs. Don't pressure her for sex or make her feel guilty that your not gettin' any. That is a major turn off. When a woman is pregnant, so many things are changing and so many hormones are out of whack, don't expect her to feel the same as when you two first got together. Things probably aren't going to get better after she has the second child either, a lot of women lose their sex drive when they haven't gotten but 2 hours of sleep and are getting puked on all day, and are up to their ears in poopy diapers. So help as much as you can and be the best husband a woman could ask for and you'll get some.
2007-01-18 19:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you look at this realistic, you will see an 18 year old that has a 2 year old and is pregnant to boot, if you were in her shoes would you jump for joy when a horny husband comes home and wants sex like it used to be. Only if you can take a bit of the burden off her shoulders will she be a willing partner, Right now she is tired, so give her a break
2007-01-18 18:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a very young toddler, and she is pregnant with another child on her way. I wouldn't be surprised if she is exhausted at the end of the day. I know I was exhausted sometimes. There was virtually no sex in between my x and I, because I was really starting to dislike him anyways, for the actions he had done. You are a male, you don't have pregnancy hormones like women do.
I may have a suggestion...try this...I LOVED taking baths when I was pregnant, I don't know why, soothing. Why do you run her a bath...with some bubbles and you sit behind her in the bath and gently massage her. Massage her whole body...make her melt in your arms, relaxing...mind off everything...touch her stomach of the new creation growing in her womb...her hands on top of yours in a circular motion. Rub each other down in the bath, gently kissing each other...feeling each others bodies....radiating.
Go easy on her. Lots of foreplay. Don't rush it. If she is not into it, Respect her please. You have your whole lives ahead of you.
2007-01-18 18:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take your time and enjoy her because you have a plenty of time. Too much of good thing may not be a good thing. It's quality, not quantity.
Take it slow, but make it good when you do have it.
You can change the sex drive. Women's sex drive is low when men's is high. Be patient. She will come around when she gets a little older.
2007-01-18 18:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by Dumbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women in general don't understand the man sex drive. You need to explain to her that it isn't just a want but a need to keep your marriage going. Just try to talk to her the best you can and see what happens.
2007-01-18 18:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by Krazee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think her interest will come back when she is further along in her pregnancy. It is too early to worry about it.
But it would not hurt to look for stress in your marriage, such as money problems, or other issues at work and talk about it. Think about any logistic issues she is thinking about, like day care and talk about that.
2007-01-18 18:22:25 · answer #7 · answered by Ron H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is normal it will pick up again after the kids have been born and grown a bit and need less attention ,
stop having babies and your sex life will improve.
2007-01-18 18:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your lady is tired, literally. You want to turn her on? Pick up a broom. Really.
2007-01-18 18:26:11 · answer #9 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋