2007-01-18 18:10:46 · 23 answers · asked by john 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
NO - but many a man has been charged with rape for situations just like this.
2007-01-18 18:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by Chloe 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
How can yes mean no? Sounds like you've created a situation whereby you know someone didn't want to do something but you've persuaded her into a "yes". I assume this question is being asked by a male and only you would know what transpired to achieve that "yes". I hope I'm wrong because if you've kept pushing a chic from her no, into a submissive yes, then you're an areshole. Oh, and a rapist!
I just wanted to add that the reason I used the term rapist is that in your information, you expressed that you knew someone meant no, even though they said yes. There's more to communication than words, right? If a chic finally says yes but is crying or obviously uncomfortable, then I would suggest that she REALLy doesn't want to go through with it! Common sense usually prevails, it doesn't matter how horny you are, it is no excuse for pushing someone's will.
2007-01-19 03:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a girl says yes and means no, it usually means that she may have been pressured into having sex, but would have preferred not to. But there is a fine line between that and a girl willingly and wantonly having sex, then later regretting it and wishing she would have said no, then calling it rape. You can be right in the middle of having sex, and the moment she tells you to stop, you must stop.....IMMEDIATELY!
There are alot of gray areas with this issue. It is best not to have sex with someone who is uncomfortable or hesitant. Never pressure a girl for sex. It is best to find a willing and monogamous partner, so that this will not be an issue. But if a girl says yes (and means no) and goes through with having sex, is should not be considered rape because she gave consent.
This does NOT count if you have sex with a woman who has been forced into prostitution or sex slavery. This is a worldwide problem that is starting to get more attention lately. These women generally do NOT want to have sex with their patrons, but consent because they will be beaten or killed if they do not. Having sex with a woman who has been forced into sex slavery IS RAPE!
2007-01-19 02:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jason C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As others have said, there are mitigating factors. If a women is coerced, meaning she fears she or someone she loves will be harmed or killed, she may "say" yes because she feels like it will get her out of those consequences. And then there are the girls who are "worn down," pressured and made to feel guilty (the"blue-balls" line, etc.), who finally say "yes", even though they said "no" a dozens times before. They don't "want" to, but they give in to manipulation (this can happen to males at the hands of females, too, only they usually say things like "what's wrong with you? Are you gay?). But because they gave consent, it cannot be considered rape. That doesn't make it right, though.
2007-01-19 02:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In legal terms rape is considered rape when a woman does not give consent. A woman might be afraid to deny advances by a persistant man, and is therefore unable to give consent, and that will be considered rape, so yes, men have to be careful with promiscous sex. Why not wait until she unmistakably asks for it, or says she is ready. Better yet, why not wait for a girl you intend to marry?
2007-01-19 03:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by persnicady 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I honestly believe that if a woman felt very strongly about not having sex, she would express these feelings clearly and VOCALLY. This is a situation in which she should, for her own good, not allow any ambiguity. This is why I can't stand girls who say no to appear cute and coy, when their intention is to go through with it. I actually met a girl who complained (yes, ladies, she COMPLAINED) because she told a man she didn't want to have sex and he didn't push the issue! As women, we should be strong and confident enough to voice our desires honestly ... so there will be no problems or confusion. We shouldn't expect men to be mindreaders when it comes to this subject, and if we do, we are going to be the ones hurt in the process. Now that I'm finished with that little rant ... I believe that legally, if a woman says yes you are good to go ... unless she tells you that she's changed her mind.
2007-01-19 02:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by justsumchickie1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not enough information. If a woman means no, she should say no.
Unless, for example, she is afraid to say no for the consequences - getting hit or whatever. Then she is being mentally abused AND raped.
2007-01-19 02:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by martiismyname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if a woman says yes at first then how can it be "a rape" man. dont worry . i dont know why you asked this question. But i wud like to tell ya that if she said yes first and then she said no then its like 'she allowed you to do sex, and now she is saying i didnt wanted to do this.' weird. well, then in such case say "then why you said yes before." Hmm Hmm
2007-01-19 02:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by Just wanna do it man!!!!! A Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a woman's prerogative and a lawyers dream. In court, it can be considered rape. Read this...
http://www.reason.com/news/show/31876.html
2007-01-19 02:22:55 · answer #9 · answered by Sean T 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No way! A woman needs to know how to say NO.
2007-01-19 02:18:44 · answer #10 · answered by ivory 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋