I would absolutely love to tell my parents/sister/her friend, but I really don't have the guts to do it. I've been asked, several times, if I was a lesbian, but I denied it. I'm...scared. My sister isn't very accepting, her friend will tell her, my mother tells everyone everything, and my dad doesn't care. So. I like, need advice. Haha.
Two of my friends know, and my ex girlfriends, of course, know. I don't see what the big deal is, really, why it matters to people what someone's sexual orientation is, but whatever.
2007-01-18 18:10:39 · 10 answers · asked by Em. 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i say, live your life the way you want to, and eventually, your family will find out in good time. if you want to tell them, then do so, but i think you are not obligated to tell anyone. as time goes, things will just fall into place as long as you do not hide who you are.....
maybe the one person you can tell is your mom, if you are close enough to her. mothers have a tendency to understand these things better and side with their children rather than fathers or even sisters. the best time to tell your mom is when you find someone whom you love. then, you can confide to her about your relationship.
then, when the time comes she will be your support system if anyone else says anything in the future.
2007-01-18 18:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find a time when they're not busy, maybe start with, "hey, mom?" or, "Hey, dad?" explain to them that you think you're gay, hopefully your parents aren't homophobic. But even if you are a little bit confused, take your time. No rush, no pressure. Just like coming out: It's not a race. I would wait some more, though. It's fine to experiment, and when you're positive, tell your mom or dad. Just say, "listen, I had some time thinking about it, and I want to tell you I'm gay." Hope this helped, and good luck. :)
2016-05-24 06:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest concern is your parents. And only you know what you can expect from them: expect the best, but plan for the worst. If its concievable that they would kick you out, have a backup plan ready. Beyond that, if you're ready, then set a date and sit down and talk to them by then. It might help them if you gave them some resources (like PFLAG; even if its just the website). If you don't want them to tell other people, tell them so. Personally, I was most worried about my parents' reaction, so I didn't really care if they told other people after that.
2007-01-19 04:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My girl & I have been together ten years this year, and we only recently discussed it with my parents! Our whole community knows - 'coz we're always seen together.
Stay in the closet as long as you're comfortable, but realise that it will eventually come out...
Start with someone you trust to be on your side, and then work your way down the list - people are a lot more accepting than you think they'll be. I found out.
Good luck!
2007-01-18 19:19:04 · answer #4 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Coming out is tough, but you need to do this if for no other person, for yourself. I don't think your family will ridicule you if you just tell them the truth. In my case, they were just so relieved, they just didn't know what was going on. It shouldn't matter as to what someone elses sexual orientation is. Life is too short.
2007-01-22 16:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by Terry Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to come out you will feel much better after you do. it doesn't matter what anybody thinks of you all you need to do is be happy and if family and friends cant except that you are a lesbian then u need to just say to them that you area lesbian and there is nothing that they can do about it.
Just be happy with the way you are!!!!
2007-01-18 18:22:17 · answer #6 · answered by Ch!cks b4 D!cks anyday!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I too am in the same situation. Ecxept Im gay, im a dude. i was afraid to come out to my family. Look sttart with the person you are most comfortable with. I choose my second oldest sister. I was so scarred that she wouldnt want me near her little baby boy. That would of killed me. i love him so much i would never do anything to hurt him. When i told her on the 6 th day of january she ust hugged me and told me that i was stupid to think that she wouldnt love me and that she wouldnt let me see her kids. she told me that's only a small part of you. Then i told my oldest sister she actual;y cried and said if mom and dad kick you out you can come here. she said that she didnt like the idea but no mater what she loves me. then i told mom, that was a MISTKE she threatened to tell my dad because she thought i was going to be a slut and start bringing guys over. She told me dont expect me to except whay you claim to be, but as a mom i will love you. She told me that its my life and if i choose the wrong descions i will have to pay for it. I havent told my dad because he would literaly kick the **** out of me then kick me out. So im just waiting to be 18 and move out. im currently 16, i'll be 17 this febuary.
So i hope my story was able to help you, oh ya the agreement that i made with my mom was that i dont come out in school and start dating guys and she wont tell my dad im gay, so i had to give in.
If you want to know more just go to my profile and click the link to send an emial,. At times like this we need someone that is going through the same thing.
Bye and i hope to hear from you soon.
2007-01-18 19:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by who is the light of my life?? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait until your family comes out and tells you they are heterosexual, until then you owe no one a definition of who you are.
2007-01-19 00:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are right its none of their business,you should be accepted as you are if you are in loving relationshiops ,family or others.
2007-01-18 18:15:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
eventually everyone will know...maybe it would be better to tell them on your terms.
2007-01-18 18:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋