Recently left my husband, fell out of love. Started having affair w/ married boss, I know it is stupid, but we fell in love. It has been 3 months and he said he was trying to leave his wife and has not. She is not from the US, and her customs are different. I broke it off 2 days ago and am completely crushed. How I know he loves me, but why cant he fix the situation?
2007-01-18 18:09:48 · 11 answers · asked by Lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A married man telling you that he's going to leave his wife for you is a liar. You can wait all your life they will come up with all kind of excuses. You did the right thing breaking up with him. Don't go for another married man! Take this as a lesson.
2007-01-18 18:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were right when you said you never should have started the affair to begin with since first of all this is your Boss and you could end up having to leave your job if things get uncomfortable at the work place.By working around him daily and claiming to be inlove that will only increase the attraction since most people are attracted to something they are unable to have ona 24/7 basis.
There are those selected few men out there who will actually leave & divorce their wives but normally that is nothing more than a dream that never comes true.The man is comfortable in his marriage after so many years and knows that with his wife he won't have to make changes in his own life and by starting a new relationship would require him to be less confident around the new lady in his life since he is just getting to know her and does not want her to see thins in him that his ex wife may have always fussed at him about.So if you are serious about ending the relationship then find a new job and move on ,and if he really does love you then he will stop putting it off and take the proper steps to ending his marriage.If within a few weeks he has still done nothing to end his marriage then chances are it is not going to happen and well you are nothing more than his lover that provides for him what his wife is failing to provide at this time.
2007-01-19 02:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by Vickie Renee 1963 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't be easy, but as time passes you'll just go back and forth emotionally while gradually these feelings will dissipate into just a mere memory. Just keep busy, seriously get into your life w/hobbies, maybe just start looking for another job, and start doing a lot of things in your life that you've always wanted to do. You definately did the RIGHT thing by breaking it off. The sooner the better, and that's what you fortunately did. The only thing that could've been fixed is what you've already done.
2007-01-19 02:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by deirdrefaith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because the situation is not what needs fixing, this is an affair, nothing more and will probably go no further, and if you want a part time lover and no security, keep going in this direction, He has the best of both worlds and you are only a bit on the side
2007-01-19 02:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF HE TRULLY LOVED YOU HE WOULD HAVE LEFT HIS WIFE! THE WHOLE STORY OF IM TRYIN TO LEAVE HER IS BUL-SH** YOU BOTH ARE WRONG AND JUST REMEMBER WHAT GOES AROUND (WE ALL KNOW THE ENDING)....... IVE BEEN IN BOTH SITUATIONS AND LET ME TELL YOU THIS STRAIGHT FROM MY HEART........... HE DOESNT LOVE YOU, AND WHAT YOU HAD WAS WHAT IT WAS. DRY YOUR EYES AND MOVE ON! I CANT BELIVE YOUR UPSET OVER BEING WITH A MAN FOR 3 MONTHS AND NO TEARS FOR THAT HUSBAND YOU LEFT, HOW LONG WERE YOU TOGETHER?
2007-01-19 02:23:27 · answer #5 · answered by that girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know a friend who cheated on his wife same situation as yours. he told me...men who cheat on wives usually just do it for sex and ego. they will tell the "other" woman lies like for ex, "i love you", "i will leave my wife for you" just to keep you there only for sex. there are cases where the really mean it BUT if they do...then they will do their promises right away n' not lag. if he truly meant it and loved you then he would've left his wife a long time ago or left her right when u gave him the ultimatum of breaking up w/ him. you broke it up 2 days a go..and he hasn't left his wife right? then he was just lying the whole time for sex. it's easy for all of us to lie...just love makes us too blind to see the truth sometimes.
2007-01-19 02:27:44 · answer #6 · answered by shabambam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. It's not easy.
You did the right thing. Give some time, and see where it takes you. Maybe, you want to re-unite with your hubby. Maybe, a new prince will show up in your life.
Let it come, but do not rush.
2007-01-19 02:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by Dumbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing... if he really loves you he will take the next step to leaving her and divorcing her. then at that time if your still available then he can look you up.. i know been there done that.. and we are married now. good luck..
2007-01-19 02:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find another job and stay away from married men.
2007-01-19 02:16:39 · answer #9 · answered by Chris C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because he has a wife and its not as easy as just walking away when there is marraige involved.
2007-01-19 02:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by jiveybaby 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋