How important do you think it is to find out your true sexuality when faced with the situation of getting married to someone that you love but you have fantacies and yearnings towards the other sex that seem to grow more and more with time? Do you think it is worth losing the love of your life over to find yourself in this way? What if that person did lose the love of their life to find out their true sexuality and found out that it was all just a fantacy anyways and then messed up everything?
2007-01-18 18:01:35 · 13 answers · asked by someone 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thanks alot everyone but this is a hard decision, I could ruin my whole life or find the life that I was supposed to have all along, how does anyone make a decision like this?
2007-01-18 18:12:39 · update #1
How do you know "the love of your life" if you are still questioning your sexuality?You can't have one without knowing the answer to the other.Why begin a relationship with one person while hedging your bets,and looking over his/her shoulder at another? It sounds like you are willing to "make do" so you won't be alone.Try loving yourself first.You can't give away something you don't have already.Good luck.
2007-01-18 19:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by auntgnu62 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what it could be? You're nevours. The whole wedding thing could be making you a nevours wreck. But if you think it's something that is serious feeling torwards the other sex, why don't you be honest with the person you will marry and talk about it. Maybe even postpone the wedding for a little bit until you get your feelings sorted out. But be sure to include your partner in any dicision you make. And good luck.
2007-01-19 02:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by Sky-high 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump into anything you are not ready to be in.
If you truely think you have found the love of your life..then why would you even think about anyone else...
Maybe you can youself being sexually active with a woman but never "going pro" Talk to the love of your life and see maybe if before you get married to have a 3-some, to say it is one of my fantasies and I would really like to do this before we get married. Maybe by doing this, you will find out what you like the most, a woman or the man who you are going to marry and the love of your life!
I wish you the best of luck...
I am straight, but have had a 4-some and realized I am attracted to women but I can never stop loving men.
2007-01-19 10:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if my gf decided that she was just experimenting with me and our relationship to find out if she was gay or not and it turned out that she wasn't, I'll admit it would shatter my heart but at the same time I would have to understand. Some people do believe that they have a mutual liking to one sex, yet see themselves with another when looking towards the future. I believe that this is important to state right off the bat to someone before starting a relationship because otherwise mixed or unclear messages would be sent and they would end up hurt while the other party continues on with their journey to discover themselves.
2007-01-19 02:15:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a very difficult situation. The only way through it is with honesty, to yourself and the love of your life. Sexuality is very rarely black and white in the sense that it fits into nice easy stereotypes of 'gay' and 'straight' so you need to be honest with your partner and tell them how you feel. If they truly love you and you in turn them you will work out it out!
2007-01-19 02:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are the love of your life, then there should be no question babes. If you have feelings for same sex, you may be bisexual. You need to have all the questions in your mind answered before taking vows. Not only for yourself, but for the sake of your partner. If it ends it will be painful, but better to realize it before taking the vows.
I hope you do find yourself, be it gay/straight/bi and live a great life.
2007-01-19 02:07:28 · answer #6 · answered by The Gay Argentian Seal 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should actually already know your true sexuality if you're at the point of getting married. At the end of the day, if you have even ONE doubt about getting married - then don't do it.
If you're in love with a soul - then the body shouldn't matter. It's like rejecting a gift 'coz you don't like the wrapping paper.
My girl of ten years is straight. She fell in love with my soul.
2007-01-19 03:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are the "love of your life", then you are at least attracted to that gender. So even if you find out you are bi, you will still love the person you're getting married to. Good luck later in life ;).
2007-01-19 02:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by guitarherofairy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't even read what the Fool LULU wrote....
well, first of all, Clear your mind... Try to look at what you really want in your life... what you desire and then where are you going with your desitions...
You need to find yourself and if that person was meant to be with you...
Then, you'll end together as a coulple anyways...
2007-01-19 02:06:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
postpone wedding, be blunt with fiance, keep it real and to the point. he may understand or not, but he will respect you for not keeping secrets. if this is the one for you, then you need to know more about yourself before you can give yourself to someone else. i think you owe your fiance that much.
i would rather hear it before wedding than after wedding,
the vows when you take them, take the vows with all the love and
sincerety and trust that goes with them.
2007-01-19 04:46:06 · answer #10 · answered by sharma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋