if you treat a girl really bad...for ex...when u fight...u call her names n' put her down..and curse at her...does that mean you don't respect her enough to be faithful to her? or is respect and infedelity 2 totally different things to u guys? is there such thing as verbally being abusive and just plain being mean to your girl but you would never think of cheating on your girl? or does that go hand in hand...if you don't respect her enough then you'd probably cheat on her...
2007-01-18 17:47:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my response to yu...yes i'm being honest. he's verbally abusive. there was a long period of time where if in a argument big or small he'll get crazy fast n' start cursing at me and putting me down...and at first for a long time i didn't fight back. only very gently told him i deserve respect and threaten to leave him if he doesn't quit. eventually i grew tired of it n' i'll admit it NOW i'll sti ck up for myself n' fight back by cursing back. but i didn't do it for a long time...it was very one sided. response for grim...mind if i ask what type of mean things u say to her? what is the worst you've said to her or called her...?
2007-01-18 18:02:43 · update #1
If someone is abusive to you, why would you care if they were faithful? I'd send them packing before it even became an issue.
2007-01-18 17:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you cheat just because your verbally abusive? This isn't a gender biased issue. It all depends on the person. Some who are verbally abusive will cheat, and some won't, just like some women.
And for the record, I have to ask, are you being honest about who;s doing the verbal abuse? Are you sure you don't contribute and do the same to him? Many times, I find that one person in the relationship will point fingers at the other, and gain respect from people of they're same sex because they "understand", when in actuality, your also apart of the problem.
I just hope your being honest.
2007-01-18 17:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy your with yells and curses at you is that not enough reason to get rid of him. Start thinking about if you respect yourself here if you think that is the way a good relationship is! If you don't respect yourself you can't expect anyone else to! You alone control what you allow in your life! As far as cheating goes if he can cuss you out with out a problem I'm sure he has no problem cheating.
2007-01-18 17:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by dfgrace22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common for some men to think of their significant other as "property", which is a bad way of viewing their woman. Sometimes its best to watch out for those who are more controlling. It's better to look for someone who wants to be a strong partner, rather than a tight-fisted leader. Respect is extremely important in a relationship, as it is vitally important that both can trust eachother in being respectful.
2007-01-18 17:54:05 · answer #4 · answered by Morphage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on his upbringing.Sometimes I've said mean things to my wife and regreted them the second I said them.I would never cheat on her I just have anger problems.Now if he's verbally abusive like my brother-in-law,thats what he saw growing up.The only male role model he had was an uncle who would put down his wife in front of everybody and cheat on her,well the apple don't fall to far from the tree.
2007-01-18 17:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know your right = ok . Now to go further , to you, is there a chance or possiblity that one as such you described can be a man and truelly admit(1) he has made blunders and (2) earn your trust through platanich friendship with being sincere gentlemen who doesnt resemble the old abuser? curious where trust and love stand.
2007-01-18 17:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't treat a woman like that, and I wouldn't expect any woman to put up with that kind of behavior from any guy!!
Tell him to hit the road, and find you a decent guy that will treat you right! They are out there you know!
2007-01-18 18:01:06 · answer #7 · answered by Dan821 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting way of putting this question...you have the answer if you read your question. Dump him. Honor yourself. If someone treats you the way you describe, is that honoring you? How do you want to be treated? How do you treat yourself. Learn to love and honor yourself and you will find that you can only choose partners who will honor you. If you have a partner who doesn't honor you the way you honor yourself, drop him/her. Be true to yourself, love yourself, accept yourself as you are, without judgment. If you can do this, you will only choose partners you can honor and who will honor you. This is very important.
2007-01-18 17:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think just because he bad mouths you he would cheat on you. I also don't think you should stay and find out this doesn't sound like it will get any better. Respect yourself and get out.
2007-01-18 17:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by Krazee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go girl
2007-01-18 17:51:16 · answer #10 · answered by fuzzyboogerbutt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋