Does any other wives feel the military treat us like complete crap? As far as not giving a crap about us having no lives at all? I would really like to get a job, but thats impossible due to the fact that they constantly change my husbands work schedule. When I have a doctor's appts, they tell me to reschedule it or take my children with me. I am overseas, and it's not like I can just take them to a friend's house, or call in a baby sitter. Now if the appt was for him, they would be willing to give him the time to go do it, but when it comes to the wife, it's pretty much left up to me. I have no life because the military doesn't accommodate family, just the service men. All their commercials flaunt their dedication to family, but when it comes down to it, they treat us like crap. I may want to mention that, I just moved here, I don't know anyone, childcare is pretty darn expensive, and there's a lot of nonsense when it comes to me trusting my children with other people.
2007-01-18 17:43:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've had cops at my house with 2 year olds asking if we are missing a child because they find many toddlers running around outside. This is a very big problem at this particular base. That is why I don't trust people with my children. And they make it impossible for me to continue with college. I just want to know if there is anyone else, that has been thru this and what if anything did they do?
2007-01-18 17:45:50 · update #1
* NO ACTUALLY I NEVER HEARD THAT, AND TO BE HONEST I'M NOT SURE YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT. BECAUSE THEY FLAUNT THERE DEDICATION TO FAMILIES.
2007-01-18 17:50:30 · update #2
Well, the military doesn't really give a damn about their soildiers either. Especially single parents, we are expected to go where they want us to go, cause we don't have a choice, and attempt to find child care with anybody, I don't trust my daughter with some of my family members, let alone some stranger, but they don't care. By the way, all soldiers aren't accommadated for their appointments either. Most of their supervisors figure if you have a spouse, then they can take care of the kids. That is why I getting out of the military.
2007-01-18 18:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by Cocoa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way,but I'm an active duty member. The military doesn't really give a **** about family. But I think you might be at a crappy base, feel free to email me or im me on yahoo. You should at least take online classes and try to get to know your neighbors. I know it's hard,I've been in Germany for 4 years and have only met one person that I trust my son with. But trust me you need to have some form of a support system out there or it will be a LONG tour. Sorry,your stuck watching AFN, it really does blow.
2007-01-19 01:50:32 · answer #2 · answered by lily_shaine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not agree with you at all. I am a military spouse who is pregnant. My husband is a recruiter. He works very long hours. However, anytime I need him to take me to the doctor or anything like that, they freely give him time off. We have a great Station Commander and an even better 1SGT. They absolutely care about their soldiers AND their families. We hold FRG meetings and take time, AS A GROUP OF FAMILIES, to talk about issues and concerns that everyone has. When we voice our opinions, then the 1SGT takes them to the higher ups to get them resolved.
2007-01-19 12:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a family yet, but I see what you are talking about. Everything in the military is about the mission. That's all they worry about. My squadron at home does have a support group for spouses and stuff. Maybe you could create one if they don't have one and come up with volunteer babysitting for a group or something.
2007-01-19 02:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I agree with you.
I know so many wives who suffer. That's why I married my husband a week after he got out of the military.
2007-01-19 01:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same issues,,,but thats life, ----before i married my military husband,i had the same problems in regualr civialian life . Such as Dr appointments ect. Just life.
2007-01-20 19:21:27 · answer #6 · answered by Akida 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The military does not care enough about spouses..
2007-01-19 02:06:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what they say. the military didn't issue you one
2007-01-19 01:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by john diamonds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋