It is amazing how people respond to the question is it okay to cheat, even if the spouse does not ever become aware of the infidelity. The first thing people seem to go to is adultery which is a biblical term. That same person is committing a sin that is know less sinful than adultery by having sex out of wedlock. In addition, the reason for sex is to multiply and not for the pleasures that we get from the act, “be fruitful and multiply.” Therefore, unless a person is free from sin, one should not point fingers and judge.
2007-01-18 17:38:07 · 25 answers · asked by Thinker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I think that if you test drive a car before driving it then you should make sure that the one you are with can fulfill your needs. Some people have problems and some need more and some need less. That is something that will have to go along with the connection between the people. When the time is right it will happen regardless of religion.
2007-01-18 17:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by FullofQuestions 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By all means, yes. If you use protection, have fun, and are comfortable with it, then go for it. Sex is a part of life. I don't understand why some people think abstinence the only way to go. I mean, what is marriage? A piece of paper with a lot of rights on it -- yeah. But that really shouldn't be everyone's main goal in life, to get married. I mean, what's wrong with a long-term relationship, a marriage without the paper? It's essentially the same thing. I had sex before marriage. My first time I realized sex isn't all that it's cracked up to be, my second time was amazing because I actually loved the guy. I'm not married, but I'm still with the second guy. I have no regrets.
2016-05-24 06:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? Speaking from a perspective of Christianity, all sins are equally sinful and having sex with more than one partner in one's life is adultery. Although, from the perspective of many non-Christians, your question is irrelevent. Personally, I'm agnostic and I decide on what is right and wrong not through a book, but through reasoning.
Adultery is wrong only because it involves lying to one's spouse. Open marriage does not involve lying and is therefore not wrong. I also believe that one can have 'sinful' sex within or outside of marriage. It is not the act that makes sex wrong, but the intentions.
I do not agree that the only purpose of sexual intercourse is reproduction and I feel that it is okay for a sexually active couple to choose not to reproduce. I believe this because I know that sexual activity (in or outside of marriage) can have psychological, physical and emotional benefits for those involved and others without children being the result.
I have chosen not to reproduce for moral reasons as I am very certain that the world is over populated with 'rotten fruit' continuing this behaviour is only going to bring about more tragedy. I cannot blindly believe in a religion who's moral teachings have betrayed the human population repeatedly.
2007-01-18 17:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i really like suren and tha dude answer. listen dear , sex before marriage is okie unless that u do it with the one u r sure u will be getting married to .
may be its a sin for christians but think y it is? our senses are not so well developed to think y the bible has state so ..but we can at least try to think y it stated like that .....the reason i get is that its a way to prevent unwanted pregnancy and other deadly diseases etc among human beings!
since our senses are more developed than animals but then less developed to understand Godly verses we should act mid-way. which means unitil you do it with the person u'll get married its okie. sometimes it happens that we get ditched by our partner but at least u know u have been serious on ur side!
2007-01-18 18:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by summer_gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will not walk around the earth judging people for the mistakes they make. You are right judging is for God not us.
I agree that we should be less judgmental about almost everything concerning another human being. We need to respect others choices - right now. After all we repent only to God Almighty.
In trying to understand the question though, in an effort to make an excuse of one sin replacing and/or is equal to another.
I believe you have 2 sins absolutely enlisted however one is entirely different. In one case being committed to someone before God and in the other being committed to one's religion/belief. In my opinion one is harder than the other by far in that in Adultery you have to seek and successfully attain forgiveness and repentance from your spouse and in the other instance you have to seek forgiveness and repentance from God.
We all know that its safe to say that God is all-forgiving, all-merciful, and Master of the day of Judgment.
2007-01-18 17:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By having sex before marriage you are not cheating the creator. The creator never asked anyone to marry. Marriage is a human invention, not divine.
Yes the bible says 'be fruitful and multiply', but it never says 'dont take pleasure'. Out minds are confused and guilty.
2007-01-18 17:44:31 · answer #6 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure why people always talk about not judging. Sin is supposed to be judged. It's wrong. My sin is wrong your sin is wrong. That's a given. Whether or not you are going to heaven or hell is between you and your Maker. That is what we are not supposed to judge. And yes, sex before marriage is sin, just like adultery, just like lying, just like envy and a host of other sins. I do believe though that you are mistaken about not enjoying your spouse. I believe the song of Solomon is all about enjoying your spouse. Read it. It's one of the great pleasures of being married.
2007-01-18 17:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Strange question. Note that marriage is not created by God, but by man. Adam and Eve weren't married. No, I don't believe for a moment that having sex is a sin against God, any time, anywhere or under any conditions between 2 consenting adults. If God only wanted people to have sex for procreation and nothing else, it is my belief that he would not have made it enjoyable.
2007-01-18 17:46:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex before marriage is wrong from a Christian and moral perspective. Yet it s difficult to achieve chastity these day
One thing is people are getting married late (at least in my country Zimbabwe)
My grandmother got married at 17, my girlfriend is 27 this year and we dont have concrete plans yet. Its hard to wait that long when your hormones are calling for it, its also wrong to marry just coz u want sex, before you are ready for all else
2007-01-18 17:49:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
look... u may might sex 50 times before u get married,,but when u get married and U STOP having sex with 10 different men or women and be a different person and be LOYAL TO YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE what else matters?? your a changed person,,, past is the past,, marriage is the future..
remember the mary magdaline story she was a sex worker.. but she changed ..and was accepted by jesus
but im not telling you could have sex infinite times before get married..
2007-01-18 17:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by suren D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋