How should a carry myself? How do I move past how I think I look?

Question

Every since I was born I was always told how pretty, beautiful, gorgeous and just plain adorable I was. I have grown to not believe a word of that. I have very low self esteem. I am heavy set but, not obese. I know that has alot to do with it. I still can't move past that and believe that I am really pretty.

Answer 1

Youve got to look in the mirror and decide if your looks is going to be what gets you through life or not. Love yourself. Take a few hours out of your week to just love yourself completely. Do your hair nicely, your nails. Then take all your make-up off (if any) look in the mirror and pick out what you love, it could be your eyes are they dark? or light? look right at the coloured part of your eyes and see how beautiful that is. Look at your hands, decide that you have beautiful hands. Decide you have a beautiful spirit. At the end of the day, people arent atracted to how you look, but how you feel about yourself. <3 - Lauren

Answer 2

I also have always had problems with very low self esteem, which eventually lead to being diagnosed with both body dysmorphic disorder (you may have this) and anorexia. Although I continue to struggle with low self esteem, my best word of advice is to start doing things for yourself that will boost your self esteem a bit. Ask yourself what you feel you could do to be and look your absolute best. A new haircolor? A new fashion "look" that you feel most matches "you"? Doing nice things for others? Loving your outward appearance is never enough. You have to love all of you, so do things that you feel will make you feel proud of yourself. Make a list and start accomplishing it. The most important thing is to realize that you are YOU, and you should be proud of YOU. Striving or being unhappy with yourself because you're not someone else or never will be someone else won't help. You are the only you there will ever be, so be happy with that and know that in order to love yourself, you've got to be the best YOU you can be. Also, try aspirations. Try learning new things. And check out selfgrowth.com. It's a wonderful resource for being a better you.

Answer 3

A rose sits there warming itself in the sun. it is totally unaware of how beautiful it is, or how sweet it smells. it is a flower.

A person comes walking by and sees this, and is taken in totally by its beauty, and says just so.

The flower still doesn't know its beautiful.

The night comes, and there is no light, no one can see the flower,
and yet its still the same flower.

You have heard that beauty is in the eye of the beholder I am sure.
Just realize that you have a beauty, but you just can't see it
its there, People all around you can see it.

Kinda like having a sticker on your back,
its there,
wheither you can see it or not.

now, who do you trust in life? is it all the people who are telling you?
Why would they not tell you the truth?

I wonder how much of your feelings are influenced by what is seen in the media of beauty.


so, how to carry yourself?
humbly.
If you were the %100 best looking person on the planet,
you should carry yourself humbly.
if you are a person who fell out of hte ugly tree and hit every brach on the way down,
You should carry yourself humbly.

If you present yourself as "i'm all that" someone is gonna disagree, even if you are a super model ( I for one think they look ill myself)
and then too you attitude is gonna turn people off.

if you present yourself humbly, people are gonna compliment you more, and enjoy your presence.

Answer 4

well not only should you think but KNOW it....if people are telling you this then you are. you just dont see it...open up those beautiful sad eyes and see your beauty....and hold up your head high with confidence..not only look beautiful but be beautiful in the inside...thats what will make you glow and it will shine toward your outside appearance. feel it and you will be it...havent you ever noticed that if u are self consious..people WILL see right THROUGH you.... AND see the VERY thing you are hiding!! build that stregnth and confidence because you will have a miserable life if you dont....try a different hair cut like layers, different hair color or hi-lites, nice light shades of make up and a nice style of clothing...theres much more you can do. ...appearances never stay the same...they change through out the year...ever year gets better...much love,cheer up

their are actresses that struggle with their image and many people and fans find that odd because they are beautiful...they just dont feel it (like the singer ashlee simpson, she is pretty, but she doesnt think so)...but you and they choose to feel that way...you can stop it at any time. STOP it TODAY...AND SEE how tomorrow goes. :)
god bless :)

Answer 5

: I have a friend who has a very low self esteem also she is always worried about ppl looking at her, if she is dressed okay and what ppl are thinking of her.Though i keep telling her she looks wonderful and not to worry about what other ppl think as they probably have insecurties about themselves aswell.... I think you need to find something that makes you feel confident within urself....so that it makes you look and feel confident and happy on the outside, trust me nobody is perfect i kno im not and dont think that just because you have a weight issue that ppl dont think you are beautiful i have several friends who carry alittle weight yet i think they are some of the nicest and beautiful people inside and out in the world. :)