For a very long time I have lived almost like a hermit. I haven't seen any of my friends for a very long time due to social anxiety disorder and very low self esteem, as well as body dysmorphic disorder. I am so tired of struggling with this "life" of mine. What advice can you offer that may help me get through this? Any ideas on boosting my self-esteem/etc. so that I can finally have a life again? Thank you so much.
2007-01-18 17:24:50 · 7 answers · asked by Bee 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I swear, I have the same exact problems you do -- except with agoraphobia and clinical depression mixed up in that as well. I'm real messed up...
I am going to come back to this question to get ideas as well. However, I do try and hang out with friends, but it is really hard too. I understand that and you should tell your friends about it. I haven't though. I know I should but the right time hasn't come yet.
2007-01-18 17:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suffer from borderline personality disorder which can have negative effects on socializing as well, and this idea may seem a little too strange for you but I've found a lot of positive friends in group therapy. They understand the struggle and can be there for you in a way that other people can't.
Recreational exercise is a really nice way to meet people as well. Join a small hiking group or volunteer to walk dogs at the animal shelter on weekends. Doing exercise that takes your mind off of the "fitness" aspect is very positive both mentally and physically, and can be a nice way to make friends.
Another thing that really helped me ((after an awful experience with book clubs and cooking classes sdihg)) was art and dance classes. Painting and dance are good because you can express all of your feelings and emotions into one place, and people won't judge you for it, in fact they try to analyze and understand it. Its also nice to let it all out.
Anyway, I wish you well.
2007-01-19 01:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by AracelyOCU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! The way you TALK to yourself can definitely change your outlook. Just try it! You have to be patient though. Be encouraging Very Encouraging....it will sink in gradually little by little it will you have to trust it!!!!!!!!!!!!! In addition, go to the gym just force yourself to exercise 60 min a day like running it will make you feel much better....
Do you really want a FOOL PROOF METHOD...its GOD you have to tell him all your worries and all your anxieties...TRUST me okay...TRUST me He ANSWERS Prayers. Its worked countless times for me and for others. Go to JOELOSTEEN.com
He loves you and he wants you OVERCOME this and so do I!
2007-01-19 01:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel T. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has positive aspects about themselves. Make a list of your positive characteristics and post them on your fridge. It will be a positive reminder to yourself. If you strugle with this task, call a therapist.
2007-01-19 01:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by MO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you need to get professional help,secondly you have to like your self,the way you do that,you have to change the way you think,and if you do not like you how do you expect other to love you,no reality in life only perception,you will be fine,because you admit that you have problem so you are on the way of recovery.
2007-01-19 01:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by kitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call one of your friends and explain this to them. Tell them you need to get out. Start answering your phone. maybe an old HS buddy or someone you grew up with.
2007-01-19 01:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may sound too simple..but it works..just give it away. give yoru life away. add value to everyone u meet. volunteer, become a and then some person
2007-01-19 01:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by newfiemonger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋