We are still married yet he has neglected the fact that he has a 2 year old daughter. He hasn't seen her in about a month and hasn't given me any money for her. I'm currently living with family and have no idea what he's up to, he won't answer my calls. The last time I talked to him he made false promises to come see our daughter and he never showed up. I've begged him back, but he uses the excuse that we are beyond repair. I don't know what his problem is if it's another woman or the problems he had previously with drugs. What should I do?
2007-01-18 17:23:17 · 29 answers · asked by No Name 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hope your situation turns out like your nic in the movie Miss Little SunShine.
Not really good but you don't like that bring your spirit down.
He came back or not doesn't matter, most importance you still have a beautiful daughter with you and that is what important.
2007-01-18 18:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by Chelsea 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
If he's done this to you, chances are it's a bad idea to try to repair the relationship and try to get him back. Your daughter needs a healthy, stable life, and if her father is acting in this manner chances are if he were to enter back into your life again it could be very tough for her. I've experienced this before (I was the child). What you need to do is work on being independent. Realize that it's okay that he's not in your life anymore and that you can move on. Work on recreating a life for you and your daughter. It may help to go see a therapist for support. I know what you're going through is difficult, but I promise you what has happened is probably for the best. Eventually the separation you're dealing with now may lead to divorce, and it is probably for the best if it does. It will all be okay in the end. Trust that, and let things happen. Make good things happen for both you and your daughter, and make sure she has a wonderful, stable environment, even if it means not having a father figure. Everything will be for the best.
2007-01-19 01:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by Bee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is obviously a dificult time that you are going through and I hope that any words I can say will help provide you with comfort,strength and hope that better days are ahead. Obviously your husband is not clear what he wants and perhaps needs time to work things out.Living with your Mom & Dad should be seen as only a temporary solution until you can learn to become independednt both finacially & emotionally again. In one respect it is a good thing that your daughter is only two ,I am sure she is a beautiful child,and that is who we must think of next which is how you can find a job,and have someone which can look after your daughter while your at work. The key thing is that when you can land on your two feet again and become independent that is when you are making progress as sad as it may be perhaps if your former husband is gone you may be better off without him
2007-01-19 01:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by Alex H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is probibly the most heartbreaking story I've ever read on answers. It's unfortunate that he bailed on his family. I guess it's time to make a new life for yourself and your daughter. I don't know what he's up to but I'm sure it can't be good and possibly not forgiveable so it's time for you to move on. In time he'll see that he's made a mistake but by then it will be too late. He sounds like the type that has to learn things the hard way. My best advice is to get over him. As far as your daughter goes, take him to court for child support and hopefully he'll use that as an opportunity to get visitation with her.
2007-01-19 01:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost would be to contact a lawyer and try to get a freeze on any joint accounts you two may have. Next would be to file for divorce. Also keep an eye out for any accounts newly created with your name on them. This is a really risky time, and especially if he is on drugs. He could bleed you dry and you could lose everything the two of you have accumulated. Its unfortunate that you have children involved, but even so you should try to set aside any emotions and take care of business. Maybe if he is told he cant see his daughter it will make him think. Get sole custody if possible.
2007-01-19 01:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may back into the drug scene again. Do not waste anymore time trying to get him to come back. It is time to get your life on track so that you and your daughter do not have to live with your parents forever. Go back to school if you need to, and you will be able to take care of yourself and not have to beg anybody for anything. There is a support system you can get help from. You are probably eligible for a grant to go to school. You probably are not going to be successful in getting support from him since he doesn`t act interested in his daughter. Drug users are usually deadbeat fathers. You deserve happiness, and you will meet the right person. Don`t go out with any drug users.
2007-01-19 01:28:20 · answer #6 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you do. If he does'nt want you or his daughter theres not much you can do about that. He is probably one of those people who will come crawling back in the future and insist on seeing his Daughter.. I can understand if something goes wrong with a Marraige but I cant understand someone abandoning his Daughter, Its pathetic really. Give it time and see what happens and if he does'nt return then dump the idiot and start a new life with your Daughter if you can.. Im sorry for your troubles..
2007-01-19 01:26:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing either of you I can only guess.
The last sentences really stood out and living with a recovering addict is a awful life until the addict chooses to fight and stop the mayhem that goes along with the disease.
I hope I am wrong but drug addiction sounds like a likely answer to your question.
I hope everything works out for your family.
2007-01-19 01:33:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to like this, but let him go. He is a rat bastad that won't be worth scratch to you or your daughter.
Just focus on all those times you cried because he was an insensitive emotionless blackhearted vapid selfish ignorant dream-crushing ahole and it will make it easier for you to move on.
Don't forget to sue him for child support for the rest of his natural life.
2007-01-19 01:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer. Most states have some form of lawyer assistance for you. Be strong for your daughter. Definitely don't even think about going back with him. This is what we do when we have low self esteem. Consider some form of therapy. There is even on-line help now.
2007-01-19 01:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋