step parents what is their role in the childs life?

Question

I have been married for 6 months, my husband has no children ,and my ex husband is in jail so i am getting no support, and my new husband tells me that he is being used by a dead beat in jail and it is not his responsibility to take care of the kids, and i am not working because he brought all of us to another country to live with him while he works. he told me last night he would let me know when he couldnt take it anymore.. more or less he said when he gets ready for a divorce he'll let me know.. what do i do ..all of this started over me letting the kids play 1 sport each a year.he said i cant afford it and i said i was going home and going back to work. and he said it was stupid.help married single mom

And to top it all off i got him his job he has right now thourh a friend, and it pays out the ***. why did he have me quit my job to be with him in another country cause he didnt wanna be alone. he reminds me frequently that they are not his blood.and i guess ive just screwed up again . maybe he is right there is no man out there that will love and help support my children while their father is a deadbeat.

Answer 1

OMG i will tell you right now... I am a 20 year old Female that has come from divorced parents.. and i can tell you right now this guy is NOT right for you. If it wasn't for my step dad i would NOT be the person i am today!. I can't believe this jerk is actually telling you this. Those kids are a part of your life, and he needs to get it through his head, when he married YOU he married THEM!.. What kind of idiot would marry a woman with children and NOT expect to have to be a part of THEIR life as well..... This seriously just blows me away!

Answer 2

When he decided to marry you he accepted that you have children. His role is as an on hands father to your children. He must be very young or very immature to not know this. You're better off w/out him. His responsibilities include making sure your children are safe and secure just like you would do. His rights end when it comes to making certain legal decisions but he is still held by law as the father figure and if he divorces you he will still have to pay child support.

Answer 3

Pray about it!!!! It sounds like you know what you should do. But first pray about it...there may be a blessing in this storm. Or it could be signs that God is telling you this isn't the man for you. If this is a sign that God is telling you this man isn't for you, go and get your kids and go back home. You can do bad all by yourself.
You don't need someone's help to be living miserable. But first, definitely pray on it. YOU NEVER KNOW!

Answer 4

HE will LET you know??? what's up with that crap? He knew you had kids, he married you anyway. He wanted you to be an at homer and now he is belittling you and berating YOU about money. What an A.S.S. He is not the man for you, he does not DESERVE you, and you should certainly kick his sorry, no good, controlling, STUPID fool butt to the curb. Dang girl get some back bone, if not for yourself, for your kids.

Answer 5

Well he did pretty much screw himself there. He has no obligation to support your children. That obligation rests with YOU and the children's father and obviously since their father is in jail he can't support them. I suggest you get your butt out and find a job and begin supporting your children or your marriage could be over.

Answer 6

LEAVE him, now. Don't put up with him treating you and your kids like that. Men piss me off when they do s*** like that. He knew you had kids when he married you. Move back to somewhere that you have family support. Find a job and dump his sorry a**.