My boyfriend and I were together for 6 months, and unofficially together for a year and a half before that. About 2 months ago he cheated on me, and I forgave him. I found out the other day he did it again about 2 weeks ago. We broke up. And I know its forsure this time. And I'm not even that upset about it, I haven't even cried. It's just like I erased all the memory of him, and we were never together at all. We haven't talked and I haven't seen him. But my friend that broke up with his girlfriend of 2 months was completely devistated..I know I love/loved this guy, so why aren't I upset!!
It was deffinatly the best thing to do I know that. But i should still be upset! I only get jealous when I think he's with other girls.
2007-01-18 17:06:04 · 23 answers · asked by Jen J 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
you are obviously upset about it and it hasn't left your mind yet. you probably think he's going to come back to you and confess his undying love for you and promise not to cheat on you again and that's why you aren't mad about it. consider talking to a counselor or something. people deal with break-ups in different ways. and never....NEVER forgive and stay with a man, or in this case, a boy, who has cheated on you.
2007-01-18 17:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by JaneDoe 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Everyone is different. Also, there are the circumstances to consider. For you...he was cheating on you, numerous times, and it is best for you to move on from a guy who does that. You know this. For your friend who is so devestated, it was probably a different scenario.
From personal experience, I've found that the best thing to do after a breakup is to remove all trace of the signifigant other from your life. Don't call them, don't mope around wondering what they are doing now, or look at something they may have got you for Christmas and get all teary eyed. Move on...it's the only way.
I don't think there is anything wrong with you for not being so devestated about this breakup. The guy was a cheating jerk, and you deserve better. Now go out and find him! :-)
2007-01-19 17:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfshadow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt be upset. you knoew he cheated on you the first time. so obviously it wasnt much of a shock to you when you found out againa nd broke up with him.... this si meant to be. yes you may still love him but he doesnt seem to share the same love the both of you had.... move on! be happy you arent upset. hes a d ic k ! i answered your question the other day.... did he cheat then?? hes a lame as s your way better off wihtout him! be strong.. you already are strong. you havent even shed a tear! good job! please do us all a favor NEVER put up with a guy that cheats!!!!!! as you have learned your lesson for this loser of a bf.....now ex =]
2007-01-19 01:21:11 · answer #3 · answered by laa dee da 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are many options to this:
you might be one of those people who need more time to get one information really get to you. YOur being torn period might not happen yet.
you might also have not really realized that he is like REALLy gone. You havent found anything that makes you think that you have lost something.
Or you are just a really strong person. and not much with tears.
well either way, I think that nothing is wrong with you. Not everyone is the same, and that people handle their sadness in different ways. Being sad or not is just in your nature and thats just who you are, nothings wrong with
2007-01-19 01:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by AsiH 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your problem is that he keeps sleeping with girls who are more attractive than you. The answer is rat poison. That'll show him. Not too much though, because that's just asking for trouble. Who you use it on and in which orifice is really up to you, though. Many good things could come of this!
2007-01-19 04:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by Pastor Q. L. Feeney 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that it will hit you down the road
right now your head is in control, which is good!
I think that you heart will wake up though and you will be a bit sad
But you definitely made the right choice, I think that is another reason for the lack of devastation...you know you did the right thing.
Good luck :]
2007-01-19 01:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everyone deals with situations differently, maybe it really hasn't hit you yet, or maybe you did n't really have deep feeling for this person like you thought you did. Either way, it all depends on the person and their feeling deep down.
2007-01-19 13:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by QUEEN ME 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeahhhh. I dont think anythings wrong. like.. if you cried about it the first time you found out that he cheated on you, you just like dont care anymore. I just think that later on you'll break down. I dont know. that ahppens to me sometimes, like I dont care and then later on I cry my eyes out.
2007-01-19 14:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u aren't upset because you KNOW what a jerk he is a nd u can see that u deserve BETTER.its normal to get jealous ,i mean u still CARE about him.its not easy to make feelings like that just dissapear.
conclusion:nothin is wrong
2007-01-19 11:54:45 · answer #9 · answered by ♥§o contagiou§♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you look like your picture i would`nt worry too much, you`ll find another easy. You can never trust him again, so it should be over. You probably did all your crying the first time.
2007-01-19 01:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by fisherking 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋