its been 3 and half years we r in relation,we never had sex,cause i wanted to sleep with only one person in my life,n that will be my husband,even he was a nice guy n never forced me,we really loved each other,but when i was outta country,someother gal started seducing him n forcing him to leave me,that gal even doesnt know me,they hided from me for 4 months,cz he knew i'll spoil all ma exams,so when ma exams got over he told me what all they did,n he is sorry,n she hates that gal,but he had to do whatever she asked,cause she was blackmailing him,n telling him if u dont sleep with me i'll tell everythiing to ur gf,n screw her exams,when i came back he introduced that gal to me,she even stayed in ma house for almost one month,n i took good care of her,didnt know she is such a slut who is abusing ma bf,now ma bf is really sorry,n he wants to be back,n he really hates that gal,what should i do? should i forgive him or not? he is gonna be here for another 6 months
2007-01-18 16:59:52 · 20 answers · asked by S S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When other girls try to hit on me I just tell my girl and we laguhg together. So don't be a fool; That girl didn't force him, (guys don't get erections at gun point) he did it because he like to have sex, he was exited, and she was easy, if you believe that lame story you believe anything; but I know girls and I know you are going to believe his lies and forgive him; but one day you will fall sick and a doctor will tell you that you got HIV (AIDS) from your boyfriend and that you are going to die; then you'll ask yourself "Maybe he lied all the time".
If you want to have a happy life, be smart and strong. If you don't care about your parents, and dying young in terrible endless pain, keep being innocent. Just remember I told you, when getting the bad news.
2007-01-18 17:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you love him enough and he is really truly sorry and you believe that then yes you can forgive him. I was with my b/f for about a year and we were engaged and he slept with someone else and he was so sorry that he did it. he cried for a long time. I wouldn't touch him or let him touch me or kiss me or anything for a while. I made him feel like the biggest *** ever. I told him one day that I had met up with one of my exs and just left it at that for him to believe what he wanted and he cried and was so upset. I knew that he was so sorry and wouldn't ever do it again!! I was so upset that he did cheat on me, but when it came down to it I really loved him more than anything and well. we are now married and have been happily for a year and a half. So once a cheat not always a cheat!!
2007-01-26 14:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I WOULD NOT be happy with him in the least bit! He shouldn't have done that to you. But if he is TRUELY, beyond a shadow of a doubt, sorry about what he did then I'd 4give and give him a second chance. Tell him YOU DECIDED to give him a second chance and that's the last chance. He should respect that you only want to have sex when you have a ring round your finger! But if he does that again,.....
KICK HIM 2 THE CURB!!!!
As far as the girl goes make sure she leaves your bf the h*** alone! If at all possible talk to your parents into making her leave your house!
Try to avoid her as much as possible, this has happened to my friends b4 and it didn't turn out pretty when they crossed paths!
2007-01-18 18:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by tori 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, l guess one of the things that you might want to think about is in your own comments before your question...u said that the two of you had been together that long and you knew you were saving yourself and he knew that your were saving yourself yet he was loving, supporting and never pushed u... so why does it take you leaving the country to sleep around on you? he could have done it anytime...it's kinda hard to believe that she forced herself on him and only u know if you were in a relationship worth having again...it's a hard thing to swallow when u want to save yourself...l think now you are in a situation of whether or not u can trust him or not...even if he did tell u about "later" and do u want to put yourself out there like that w/him????
2007-01-26 12:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now that he is apologizing and if you feel he is sincere, you may forgive, but don't forget. He may repeat the act with this girl or another girl. Keep a sharp lookout. But don't let your suspicion consume you and make you look silly
2007-01-18 17:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me. Dump this loser. This guy obviusly thinks with his dick. After 3 and a half years this guy should have understood your wishes. If he loved you he would have never associated himself with a girl he knew was bad and wanted him. Just remember most of us don't think with our *****, we truly care about our women.
2007-01-25 13:23:00 · answer #6 · answered by muwat616 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he truly love you as he claimed then he would not have done
this, as for her seducting him.trust me, it would not have taken
much trust me, he did this because he want to and for this
taking her in and all this drama, time to let him go he a cheater
and once someone cheated he will again. as for hating the girl
he got caught that why he singing the bluesl
2007-01-18 17:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dump him!! esspecially since he knew how you felt about waiting for the one special person! And how can that girl blackmale him before she slept with him, now is when she could blackmale him.
2007-01-26 13:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really told you that story then you need to dump him just for the story. What a load of crap. Get rid of him.
2007-01-18 18:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by TCSO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that people can cheat and be sorry about it but from what i hear about this guy he is just playing you. do you really believe she blackmailed him? im sorry but that sounds crazy to me.
2007-01-26 14:20:48 · answer #10 · answered by n&z-mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋