i know this is a odd question but my grandmother passed away on the 14th and my husband has wanted to..well you know...but i feel as if it is wrong or i dont know should i feel this way?
2007-01-18 16:57:50 · 28 answers · asked by Hello Kitty!! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
People are put on this Earth to die and that is just life. When you can except that then you will grieve for your grandmother in your own time but, your husband should be a little more understanding and let you have that time to grieve. Don't feel obligated to fulfill his needs, he should be concerned about your well-being at this time. It hasn't even been a whole week yet since her death! Maybe he thinks it will make you feel better. Tell him how you really feel and that you need his support right now. My condolences and prayers are with you, dear.
2007-01-18 17:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by saturn man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your husband, for goodness sake! If your husband provides comfort for you while you are grieving, it is most definitely a normal experience. That is exactly what a spouse should do! If by chance you happen to share an intimate moment as a result, then sobeit. To share a story with you briefly: my grandmother, whom I was VERY close with, died. I made it through the funeral preparations and funeral. I went out a few nights afterwards and ran into a platonic friend that I've known for years. We had previously slept in the same bed with absolutely nothing sexual occurring. However, during my period of grieving, I found myself drawn to him (as a friend, first). Surprisingly, I was the one who initiated everything, and he responded accordingly to my needs at that particular point in time. We still remain friends and have NEVER brought up that moment in time.
2007-01-18 17:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by feefee2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 05:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by clumm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can identify with you. My grandmother passed away a few years ago and I felt I was not yet done with mourning her. I did not want to be bothered with intimacy with my man. It was up to me to decide when the time was right. I was going through an adjustment period over my grandmother's death. It had nothing to do with it being wrong or not. Your not wrong, give yourself some time to grieve.
2007-01-18 17:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah... it's an odd question but if your really sad about your grandmother then he should respect you and wait till your ready maybe you should see a doctor about this. Sounds like you could benefit from talking to someone about this hope you feel better soon and i know how you feel i just lost my grandmother back in Nov. 06
2007-01-18 17:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by bevi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the grieving person feels right about it. Remember, though, marriage is based on compromise and kindness. I'm sure there are times your husband does things for you that he would rather have done differently. You two are ONE FLESH, if you are Christians. Practice what you preach--charity really does begin at home. Best of luck.
2007-01-18 17:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously your loss of your grandmother is of great concern to you. This loss is something that has affected your emotions. You need to let your husband know. In time you will be ready to resume your life. He on the other hand was not emotionally attached as you. so you do need to forgive him for not understanding you. But ask him if he will let you grieve this loss and set a time aside to grieve.
Ask him to understand you, but understand him also.
good luck
2007-01-18 17:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your grandmother had not known of sex you would probably not be around to ask this question.
After days of grieving and a remembrance service, then you may resume your normal life. I also hope that you have shared your feelings of loss with your hubby. Then it is appropriate to share love.
2007-01-18 17:04:31 · answer #8 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with a married couple to make love after someone close has died. If you are feeling bad about it, however, and need more greiving time..your husband needs to understand. If you are just asking is it wrong...no. If you are asking if it is ok that you are not ready...yes its ok to wait through your greiving process.
2007-01-18 17:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I can understand if it were your husband that died and you were already having sex with someone else. It's okay to have sex with your husband, even though your grandmother died. She'd probably say go for it. :)
2007-01-18 17:01:12 · answer #10 · answered by Jade D. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋