Ever know of anyone who did this? And, WHY? Well, I think I know of someone-but I am not sure. He is my friend's bro......he has friends; he is a very likable person-but a very private one too. He has a facebook and well, he has nothing on it-no info. except his name and hometown and pics. that people have taged him on. And, he hasnt had a girlfriend in a longtime-he's 24. He HAS definitely changed since etnering the military-he goes to a military academy. It seems to me, he's become very introvert; he wasn't the outgoing type-but was liked; know it seems like he is open to friendhsips; but he at the same time keeps a lot to himself-even his close friends have kind of wondered. So, I almost feel like is trying tom communicate withsomeone; but someone he trusts-but in a deeper level-and I feel like I could be it-but it's something I sense; not comfirm. How do I apporach him without offending him? Do you think I could be on to something...and he is trying to say something?
2007-01-18 16:57:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
From what I am understanding you said he has changed?
That could be a good door opener to the topic, if you wanted to bring it up. Make sure that it is a personal moment, and if he wants to talk be confidential. The reason he is being introverted could be a million different things. I think that most people have a lot more going on than other people realize. Just don't push him too much or anything, be considerate, and understanding if he doesn't want to talk.
I know plenty of people that do things like this at times, including myself.
Good luck! :]
2007-01-18 17:05:27 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I put a wall around me also, because to many girls want to go out with me for my looks and it is becoming a pain in the butt. 2 girls got into a fist fight over me on new years eve at a party and they are not my girlfriends.
2007-01-19 01:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is your friend and you are concerned. that's reason enough to talk to him about it. tell him you noticed a change in him. ask him if you have reason to worry or if it's just that he needs to figure some things out. everybody changes all the time. sometimes unnoticeable, sometimes hard to miss. and we all deal with it differently. some of us want to talk, some of us really don't. whatever category your friend is in, he'll appreciate that you noticed and give him the opportunity to talk or tell you to just give him space and time. either way he is lucky to have a friend like you! military changes people. it is a change in lifestyle. he is obviously reacting to that. whatever he decides to do; talk or keep it to himself; support him and let him know that you do. good luck!
2007-01-19 01:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by gabriela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its voice down to you and your family. Everybody wants to be safe and free from disturbance from outside. Your home is the best example of four walls.
2007-01-19 01:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I built huge walls around me. I don't want to be hurt anymore. Still, hurt comes in many forms, but my walls help me to cope. But I wish someone would jump in and Know what to do.
2007-01-19 01:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by Cister 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know him, but do remember that some people simply do not crave, need or want that kind of personal attention. It's okay to enjoy being on your own!
2007-01-19 01:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he doesnt want to be hurt.
maybe he has sad experience in the past
just act naturally and within time, you'll be closer with him, n u'll know everything bout him
gud luck..hehe ^_^
2007-01-19 01:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by wEnNy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋