My husband says he likes checking pretty and attractive women out. I don't have a problem with it but does this mean that he would fantasize about the girls that he looks at when we are in bed?
2007-01-18 16:51:56 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Personally I think for a married man to be checking out other women is wrong, because he's commiting adultery in his mind and in his heart by looking at other women. It's not fair to you. The ONLY woman he should be looking at like that or even thinking about like that is you. And to answer your question about if he would fantasize about those girls when your in bed, as someone who used to look at other women like your husband does, yes I fantasized about other women, even while having sex with my wife, and I am ashamed that I ever did it. Because I see now that I wasn't appriciating my wife. But the way I feel now about only looking at my wife, I'm showing her that I appriciate her by not looking at other women or thinking about them sexually.
Telling her that she's the ONLY woman that matters to me.
2007-01-18 16:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Possibly yes but its better than him going to do the real thing. Men will be Men and we will always look at what we think is attractive. I mean dont you think women do the same thing sometimes, we are all human.
But if this bothers you, then let him know when you see an attractive man and comment almost like the way he may comment or look at another women. If he can do it so should you, so look away and fantasize your heart out!
2007-01-18 16:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by G Dogg 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, most likely he will be fantasizing about other women if he's told you he checks them out! He just disrespected you in a big way. What are you going to do about it? You need to tame him because you guys are married. HELLO! married means do not look or fantasize about other women! Your husband has got some problems. He obviously is NOT attracted to you or love you enough to respect you.
2007-01-18 16:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He probably does. Especially if he can tell you about his flirtations openly. If he looks at other women lustily, he may feel that you are not as attractive. Be-ware of this, for many men get caught in a trap of lust, and flirtations. It could lead to more than just a checking out of a person. I would tell him to be-careful, and of the dangers. The bible calls this fornication in the heart. This is like the real thing. If you are okay with this, then I think that you need to examine what marriage really means to you.
2007-01-18 17:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may. Ask him. Contrary to belief, all men are different. Be glad that he likes to look at other women, at least he isn't looking at men!!!! As long as he doesn't lust after these women, he's okay. He's with you and as long as ya'll are a happily married couple, you're okay. Just make sure that you are taking care of him in the bedroom.
I Corinthians 7:2-5 The Message Bible
It's good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out.
2007-01-18 17:02:28 · answer #5 · answered by Gena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. I like looking at good looking guys but I don't fantasize about them in bed.
2007-01-18 16:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by Molly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate it when my husband looks at other women like that. I usually end up feeling like he thinks about them when where together, in bed. And besides if he really loves you and cares about you he wouldn't be checking out other women.
2007-01-18 17:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by bevi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a guy, i give you this... we constantly think about sex. especially when we are in public.. i can seriously be in a senior home and see some cleavage and have to gander.. lol.. but on that note.. don't think that because he looks at women as he walks by them that he's still thinking about them when he's in bed with you. were simple. a helleva alot more than you girls. that's for sure. so just know this. we have a constant desire. and when your playing around in the sack with him.. trust me.. your fullfilling that desire. nothing else is going through his mind except you.
2007-01-18 16:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by KAA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you check women out walking down the street its too general, and as a man myself I think aout my girlfriend in bed, yet look at other women. Why are you so insecure about yourself. Obviously you do have a problem with it if you are wondering if he thinks about other women. As hard as it is for myself to lie, if I was thinking of someone else during sex, I would probably say thier name.
2007-01-18 16:56:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes he does fantasize
all men fantasize about a pretty girl they see during the day
and thne in their mind bring her home that night
you get he benefit of an eager husband
2007-01-18 16:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋