what would you do?

Question

Ok so I've been having some issues with my husband. He doesn't think that I do anything around the house. But I do EVERYTHING. All he does is sit there and play Halo on that stupid xbox. We've been argueing more frequently about stupid things. I'm about at my wits end at times. How would you solve this to make him appreciate and respect me more? I'm so lost....

Answer 1

First, stop arguing, if this is something you've argued about more than once then forget it, hes just not going to get it through talking. Trust me i know, my boyfriend is the same way. What helps is action, almost a retaliation, and he usually finally gets it. To help him understand the extent of how much you do take a week and every day secretly make a list of every single thing you do to help around the house, and every single thing he does, and keep this list secret until the end of the week. Then show him how much you do compared to how much he does in a given week. DONT tell him about the list until your ready to show him it at the end of the week or else he will probably try to do extra to "prove you wrong". If this doesnt work then the following week dont do anything. Not a single chore or bit of cleaning, when he starts to question it tell him either "well you say i dont do anything around the house so i figured i would just continue not doing the things you say i apparently dont do" or tell him "you say i dont do anything around the house so now your going to see how much i "dont do" " either way after a week of this he will either break down and start cleaning himself or apologize and finally realize how much you actually do.ALSO, if he doesnt relent after a week, DONT GIVE UP! keep it going until something happens, chances are after you initially tell him why you arent cleaning he will be pretty crabby about it and may not do or say anything out of spite, but trust me, he will crack eventually. Then after he does, whenever you guys fight about how "little work you do around the house" you can forever remind him of how messy and gross the house got when you stopped.

Answer 2

Try finding something you can do together. When he is at the xbox, tell him you think you should both go out for a walk or to the movies or anything you can think of to do together. Sounds to me like you might both be living under the same roof, seperately. As for not doing anything around the house, well...we all think we do EVERYTHING! I would say, divide things up as well. Or do them together!! That might solve the problem so you are both equal.

Answer 3

Put your foot down and insist that he help you around the house. Don't expect too much. Assign him a job, like throwing out the trash. But don't be surprised if he doesn't put in a clean trash bag. Oh, and he'll probably start throwing trash in, not caring that there isn't a bag in it. Men are lazy and don't like being asked to do anything. Sorry.

Answer 4

sometime there are some issues problem in the families the best way i think. you always talk to him and share. maybe he feel boring or matter but he can't talk to you so you have to see his eyes. what bout you a ha you do anything you feel meaning in your family don't worry he 's good because he has no concubine.

Answer 5

Stay with your parents for 1 month and he will remember who has been cleaning the house.

Answer 6

Hide his stupid xbox. He may then begin to take notice.

Answer 7

i would stop doing things around the house to make him realize that you were doing things around the house, if that doesn't work then break the game

Answer 8

you have married a kid
divorce him
learn your lesson
and move on