I had kind of figured that after all the hurt we both went through with our divorce that he would bend over backward to make sure he didn't do the same thing that drove me away after 17 years of marriage, but after 2 years of "trying" to put things back together, he's back to treating me like he did that caused our divorce. He doesn't come home after work until 10 or later at night ( he's done at 5) and hasn't been coming home at all on Friday nights, even if I don't have to work on Saturday, so I'm sitting home alone waiting for him to show up and he doesn't. When we go out, he leaves me sitting by myself to go and enjoy the night with other women that he sees. He says he loves me but his actions say different, I know I have always loved him but I'm tired of being alone all the time. Advise anyone????? Please????
2007-01-18 16:39:30 · 18 answers · asked by robotchic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why do you think it will be different this time? Especially if the same thing is happening all over again? If you can answer that truthfully, you'll know which direction you need to take with him. And with yourself. You know you deserve better or you wouldn't be asking advice on Yahoo. You just don't BELIEVE you deserve better. But you do.
2007-01-18 16:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by roswell75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you and your husband divorced for the right reasons. Your husband is not going to change, and you need to move on. You deserve more. How long are you going to sit around "waiting" for him? And why would you put up with other woman? He seems like an immature, selfish person. Get rid of him, and enjoy your life.
I hope everything works out for you! This is a decision you have to make, and no matter what answers you get from here, it is still your life. But if your asking, you already know what the answer should be.
God Bless!
2007-01-18 16:49:55 · answer #2 · answered by ~ Just Me ~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't walk down that path anymore. Obviously, he wooed you again (the same way that he did the first time). This sounds like a pattern to me. You just need to cut the rope and walk away. You might try counselling to open his eyes to what he has been doing, but don't just sit there and wait. Give him a firm kick in the butt to let him know that you are there. Good Luck.
2007-01-18 18:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by lovenotlost 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your initial instinct for divorce was probably right. Move on a marriage has to have both people working together to keep it strong and healthy obviously he's not on the same page as you. Good luck
2007-01-18 16:46:13 · answer #4 · answered by steffi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you need some time apart from the situation. If he's doing the same stuff like he did before...it shows that he won't change and there was a reason that you divorced him in the first place. Take this as a sign......he just won't change for you.
2007-01-18 16:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're better off being alone than with this jerk. Are you a masochist or something? He does this to you because he CAN. He's cheating on you for pete sake! He's a loser. Not even the other women want him or he would be with them. Dump him! What else can I say? If you stay then you deserve what you get.
2007-01-18 16:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is strange how much alike and yet how different people can be. A cheater never changes. As soon as you figure that out either start getting dressed to go out and have some fun of your own when he does -or dump him and find someone better.
2007-01-18 16:57:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you just answered your own question, U are tired of being alone all the time. If you are with him and you feel alone all time, what is the point of having him around, other then having him treat you like you don't exsist..........when it comes to relationships are women always getting...........?
2007-01-18 16:51:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer--dump the guy. He's a people user and he's not going to change. No one should put up with the disrespect he shows. Change your locks and phone number and find someone capable of entering a mature relationship.
2007-01-18 16:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by SA Writer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 09:29:22 · answer #10 · answered by bungay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋