2007-01-18 16:35:29 · 10 answers · asked by Tyler C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well it's not her fault that is what you need to reassure her of. Sometimes things just aren't meant to be. If she is sixteen then she is luck in a bittersweet sort of way. She still has her life ahead of her and she will be able to have a child later when she is a little more stable, i.e. she has a job and an education. Let her know that you are there for her and that things are going to be okay. That's all I can think of to tell her.
2007-01-18 16:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by WINGS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a second chance!! Don't get me wrong, it is painful to loose a child, I misscarried too but I was older and had already had 3 kids, so I understand what she must be feeling. I also was a teenage mom. I had my first child when I was 15. I don't regret my daughter at all but if I could do it over again I would. I lost out on my childhood. I never went to my prom, hung out with kids my age or even graduated. Being a parent is hard enough, to do it when a teenager is even harder, and alone.... I don't understand why kids today want to put themselves through that!? Believe me, being a welfare mom is not fun. She has a second chance at a "normal" teenage life, she should go to school, have fun with friends her age and do normal teenage things. Then get financially and emotionally stable before thinking about bringing another life in this world.
2007-01-19 00:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see that you care about your friend, and you want her to be less sad and depressed. Consider for a minute her loss, however. This was her child, no matter what the circumstance. Maybe the best way to be a good friend is to let her be sad. Sometimes just having a shoulder to cry on is the kindest and truest sign of friendship. Don't try to tell her anything, just be there.
2007-01-19 03:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by Glory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind her of the fact that she can get to do so much more things without a baby than she could of with one and now she still has her whole life ahead of her and things will be okay. Staying busy helps alot especially going out treat her like normal yet don't act as if it never happened. Cheer her up with little things every now and then but not too obvious because she will remember and dwell on it.
2007-01-19 01:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by honeylove787878 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best thing you can do for a friend when they are grieving is just listen and be there. Be that shoulder to cry on. She is very young, like some others say, she has her whole life in front of her- but PLEASE do not say that to her She does not need to hear that at this time. She just needs you to allow her to grieve and work through it with her. If it gets really hard, there are support groups she can join.
2007-01-19 02:39:10 · answer #5 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her talk to other mothers who went through the same thing. Through a local support group, or a yahoo group. Let her know it was her body's way of getting rid of an unhealthy baby, so it was meant to be. More than anything though, be there for her and let her grieve.
2007-01-19 00:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by been_there_done_that 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is so hard on anyone, I know I went through it. Your friend is so young and I think that this is too young to have a baby. But since everything has happened just try to be there for here and let her know that you are a true friend who will stand by her. Theres not a lot that you can do except just let her talk to you about this. It will take time but she will be ok. I know this sounds really awful but everything happens for a reason, and we dont know why.
2007-01-19 00:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by karen v 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
.My daughter miscarried at 16 , I told her God knew that your baby had things wrong with it so he took it to heaven so it could grow up there and have a happy life. God knows when there are things wrong with babies. It took her a while but she come to understand it. she now has a healthy little girl.
2007-01-19 03:01:37 · answer #8 · answered by Diane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know she's still 16 and that this time wasnt right, there is a lot of life to live and there's a better plan for her, let her know she's a beautiful person and that one day she'll understand the ways of god, be there for her, just let her know you're there for her no matter what.
2007-01-19 00:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you'll have to give her time and maybe let her know it wasn't meant to be. This time is meant for her to finish school and build a stable life for the next child to come.
2007-01-19 00:43:11 · answer #10 · answered by Angelina P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋