alright so i am 15 years old and get my permit to drive in 2 months.i recently went to tahoe with my boyfriend(15) and his family for a week to snowboard.we had sex one time during that trip and he pulled out in time.i am now 4 days late for my period and have had sore feelings in my stomache(not cramps) and my breasts are sore.i have a good plan if i am pregnant and have learned a good lesson if im not.i no that my boyfriend will always be there for me no matter what happens.i was raped by a good friend 3 months ago and got lucky about pregnancy then.i havent been the same sence then and i dont really have a question but id just like to hear what people have to say..
2007-01-18 16:08:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Raped by a good friend and then thinking you are pregnant..... That is exactly what happened to me last year and i was 15 as well. This is crazy, i didnt think that any one would have luck as bad as mine.
Being raped is a hard thing to deal with at the age of 15, i did not report it to the cops because i live in a small town and have just moved so i didnt want everyone knnowing my buisness. I mean it was hard enough for me to deal with, let alone the whole town. I know what you are going through at the minute.
I tryed and tryed to get councling about it but it just wasnt working because i had to see the prick everyday. But overcoming that has now, 9months later mad me a stronger person, alot stronger than the girl i used to be.
I then found my self in a situation where i thought i was pregnant, lucky for me at the time, i wasnt. But then 2 weeks later i had the same symptoms as you and i was being sick alot so i did a test just incase and it came up positive, i then went to the doctors and he did another urine test and that came back positive and so he did a blood test and the next time i went to see him i had an estimated date of birth for my unborn child.
It all happened pretty fast and came to me as a shock, but my next big problem was telling my parents and my bf and i were **** scared but it had to be done and the sooner the better. They will be angry at first sad next and then hopefully depending on the circumstances, supportive after that.
Your symptoms could also just be you being paranoid because when a girl thinks she is preg, she then notices symptoms that arent really there and this causes her to panick and stress which can then cause delayed periods.
I would reccomend trying a pregnancy test or a blood test at the doctors and i think it is great that you have already got a plan but remember, you say your bf will be there for you through everything, when big things like this happen that can cause them to freak out and take the easy way out. So what you have to do is keep him close to you and when you get your mood swings (if you are preg) try not to take it out on him.
Also remmember if you are pregnant right now, all this stress wont be helping the baby so get a test done to reduce stress. And try and keep a close relationship with your parents and his, i guarentee you that if you have this baby you will need their support.
You are a very strong girl and that proves to me (although you are 15) that you will make the right decision.
So goodluck sweetie all the best and i hope everything turns out the way you want it to. Could you please email me if you get a chance and let me know your results and if you would like any further advice or just someone to talk to
Best of luck hun xoxoxoxo
2007-01-18 17:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by fi_beans90 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie your best bet is to go get a pregnancy test.. are you normally right on point monthly with your menstrual? whats your good plan.. you really shouldnt be having sex right now... your too young to understand the ramifications of having a baby.. are you ready for the responsibility of taking care of another human being? what do you thing the 15 year old dad can do.. are you able to take care of yourself and the baby without his help if he gets scared and doesn't want to do anything right then.. do you have a supportive family that will be there for you and not judge you.. i know that this is a confusing time for you.. take the test and find out for sure.. i personally don't believe in abortion so please don't read into this as me saying anything near that.. i believe that actings cause consequences and you have to be ready for them..
if you are pregnant.. please finish school no matter what. you can't do anything now a days without a high school education and go on and still pursue your dreams.. a babyy doesn't have to stop that.. even though it is going to be more difficult.. hopefully you have a great support system intact..
if you are not pregnant, please don't feel like you "just got lucky" .. do things to prevent it.. if you are going to be having sex you need to protect yourself.. not only from prenancy but from stds, aids.. you never know who has what.. you don't have to look sick in order to have something..
please be responsible..
hope you dont think i am lecturing you.. just want you to have this information..
2007-01-18 16:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by Betsy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young, so a late period may just be that.
Or it could be pregnancy.
If it is, I wish you the best of luck.
I hope that you are right about your boyfriend, but please be careful not to be too naive.
It is hard to think that the people you love might change on you, but it is possible.
I hope that you have accepting parents that can help you out if you are pregnant!
Good luck sweetie, I hope your not...that's a big responsibility at such a young age.
2007-01-18 17:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age, when the hormones are crazy, its normal for your cycle to be off a bit. Unless you are on the pill or some other hormone. Season changes, stress, eating habits can all affect a woman's cycle. It sounds like you are going to continue being sexually active, be smart about it use protection. I know there are a lot of girls out there who don't because the first thing that comes to mind are condoms. Check out things like film or foam. Film is great because its very compact, easy to use and you will never know its there.
2007-01-18 20:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
very high chance you are preg. Pulling out will not stop you from getting knocked up. A guy has this stuff called pre come and that holds sperm so even if hes in for a second you can get preg. Take a test and get counseling for the rape
2007-01-18 20:43:33 · answer #5 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you were raped by a good friend??? Honey this IS NOT A ""GOOD FRIEND"" this is a RAPIST and he needs to be put away for doing this. if you havent reported this to your parents and to the police you need to do it now. If you dont then he will continue to get away with it and RAPE another girl. #1 REPORT THE GUY that raped you. DONT LET THIS JERK get away with what he did to you. This is wrong---------no one needs to experience being raped.
2007-01-19 08:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by nickle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems as if you have everything figured out so congrats if your pregnant and good-going if your not. oh, and anyone who rapes you is not a "good friend" i hope you called the police on them
2007-01-18 17:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by hotbigtoad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are probably pregnant but good thing you have a plan.. Sorry about that happening to you just shows you BE MORE CAREFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-18 21:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by BabyG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be more responsible with your life. how dare you risk bringing a child into the world? how dare you be so cavalier with your future? what is wrong with you?
stop having sex. focus on developing your intellect and get a plan for your life. stop throwing your life away.
p.s. good friends don't rape you.
2007-01-18 16:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Oh My God that IS the best comeback line ever!!!
2016-05-24 05:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋