Hello, my husband has a very limited sex drive. Is it stereotypical of me to assume that all men want sex when they can get it? He rarely goes to bed the same time I do at night. When he does come to bed hours later, he does not cuddle with me. We rarely kiss, almost never french kiss. I am usually the one who has to initiate sex. Is something wrong with him? When we started dating he did not want to have sex until the 4th month together. And what I find most curious is that he rarely touches my private-area and never really has prior to intercourse. Do other people have issues like this?
2007-01-18 16:07:37 · 9 answers · asked by Marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He just has low sex drive because he didn't change after the wedding, he didn't have sex with you that often during dating period as well. If he can't satisfy you sexually, maybe you can be sure he's not going to cheat on you!
2007-01-18 16:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he work excessive or take pain killers often. These lessen sex drive. I do not know why he would not want to play with you. Watch tv under a cover and play with him some to see if he will do the same back to you. If so just let him know in a way that it feels good. Watch something that has a few nice love scenes to try and get him in the mood. Try betwen the two of you to get a more open communication about sex and what you want from each other. When watching a movie and the person does things he does not, ask him if he ever done that and mention that it would be nice. Then ak what he would like you to do for him or what would really turn him on.
2007-01-19 00:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are experiencing right now is a very rare case on marital issues. That would be (1) one out of (10) ten ratio. And there are 3 possibilities that might be the root cause of your problem:
1) he's gay
2) he's having an affair with other women
3) he hated you and dont love you for whatever reason behind...
If none of the above is the answer, then i think you need to have a heart to heart talk with him and ask him about the underlying problem.
2007-01-19 00:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by LadyLuv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would really find it odd enough to even seek some therapy especially if you have a normal sex drive because this could really cause you some resentment. I do know a couple whom say sex is not an big thing to either of them but for most of us some sort of intimate time is important
2007-01-19 00:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by chocolatesandbreakfast 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sure sign of lack of interest is his going to bed much later than you. There is definitely something very wrong here. He either has a problem with you or himself. When was the last time he's been to see his physican.........and have you EVER had a discussion about how you feel about these issues?
2007-01-19 00:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend used to get mad at me for not showing enough attention. She told me that love is like a rose, and unless you water it, it won't bloom. You have to tell him that. He doesn't understand that point of it. Also, sometimes men have a hard time with sex cause they have too much on their minds. Tell him that when you go to bed is when your supposed to "let go of everything" and pretend life is perfect. Also, to have good sex, each partner needs to use the other for their personal pleasures. Basically, each partner needs to act selfish in bed, but it works both ways. While your acting selfish in one act, he's pleasuring you, and back and forth. If you bring up all these points, it can spice up the love life.
2007-01-19 00:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by male999male999 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure there are others with issues like this. Have you talked to you husband about how you feel and asked him about why he does not do the things you need him to do. Is this how it has been since the beginning and if so then do you love him enough to deal with it or are you ready to get out?
2007-01-19 00:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Sati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so why would you even want to marry such a guy ?
divorce him
you have a sex drive that needs a good man to satisfy
sooner or later you or him WILL cheat
divorce now
learn your lesson
and start all over
2007-01-19 00:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank goodness, no. I've heard of it happening and I feel your pain. I don't think it's very usual. Could he have some physical problem he is unaware of?
2007-01-19 00:14:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋