my husband moved in with me and I was helping him clean up some stuff from his old house and came across a letter to his ex that had identical statements he made to me and also some photos of her in identical places (like on the same park bench) that we had vacationed at. ETC. It weirded me out so much...what do you think?
2007-01-18 16:04:54 · 16 answers · asked by chocolatesandbreakfast 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say that your husband took his Ex to the same places he takes you. Nothing wrong with that l guess, they are obviously special places for him and he wanted to show you also. The things he said to you are probably the way he expresses himself, hence the similarity in his letter to his Ex. I would suggest you speak to him about it if you are at all concerned .Best of luck to you
2007-01-18 16:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those places has a sentimental purpose to him for what ever reasons and the letters, maybe he just has a way of putting things in perspective with his words that he's comfortable with using. Most men just sticks with what works for them whether it be things from the past or the present. I suggest that the two of you make some new "memories" for the future guided by "your" words and thoughts until he can feel comfortable doing things different. Change can be good sometimes. Good luck!
2007-01-19 00:15:15 · answer #2 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...he's your husband not the ex's. I personally think that it's ok to keep stuff from an ex. It's harmless as long as he doesn't go and see her anymore. It's weird that he took you to the same places but maybe he just doesn't have a good imagination. Just ignore the stuff from his past. He's not keeping it to hurt you...it's just a memory.
2007-01-19 00:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that is a weird one but not surprising - did you really expect him to change his dating habits because of a failed relationship. The letter would be a bit weird but guys feel that if it has worked before then it will probably work again. Just talk to him about it. In another two years - you will probably be laughing about it
2007-01-19 00:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can look at it in two different ways:
1.) he just really likes the place he both took you two, and he doesn't really know how to express himself so he probably just said the same thing to you both...
OR......
2.) he's a crazy person and you must watch out for yourself..... many people are married to people they think they know but they don't really know.... be careful, it might sound crazy, and silly to even think your husband is a psycho but you never know.... take care of yourself.....
2007-01-19 00:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by hazel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that your husband does not have much of an imagination. maybe he couldn't think of any other place he could take you too. or maybe the places you refer to are just so special he wants you to see them too. whatever it is, you have to remind yourself that she wasn't his ex for nothing...he's with you now. so tell him to throw those damn letters and photos (if you have issues with it, at least) and forget about her.
2007-01-19 00:11:28 · answer #6 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's not really imaginative when it comes to letters and places to take dates. I wouldn't read too much into it. (unless he starts wanting you to dye your hair to her color, and making you dress like her etc.) Just get on with your new happy life.
2007-01-19 00:12:25 · answer #7 · answered by grenter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you do not appreciate him taking you to the same places that he went with his ex. Tell him not to do it again. Men have no imagination. Forgive him.
2007-01-19 00:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its bothering you that much just talk to him about it i mean after all you guys are married and you should be able to sit and talk about stuff that bothers you. also ask yourself this have you ever said something to a guy that you said to the next?
2007-01-19 00:08:42 · answer #9 · answered by Waythere 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't have many original ideas. Do you and his ex look alike? Is his ex still alive, or did she die from 'mysterious circumstances'? If that is true, he may be a serial killer.....
2007-01-19 00:10:00 · answer #10 · answered by ANSWER MY QUESTION!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋