I'm so stunned I hope I can relay this correctly...here goes:
Someone who has been one of my best friends for years calls me this evening. My call waiting was beeping, so I ask her to hold on a minute, right? She said 'ok' and I switched over. When I switch back, I was like 'it was (name)" but said person was talking and didn't hear. So, I wait. I hear laughing in the background, and person's side of the coversation. She was telling people there with her that I am a (quote here) " air-headed b****h" and laughs with the others.
She finally gets back to the phone and I confront her about what I heard. She says that the only reason she said it is because her husband thinks I am and she was going along to avoid an argument.
I am completely thrown for a loop--it's the last thing I thought I would ever hear out of her mouth.. We've been close friends for years. She says I've done nothing to her, and that she doesn't deserve to be my friend and apologized profusely. So, what do I do?
2007-01-18 15:52:34 · 15 answers · asked by Midnight Butterfly 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ok, the call waiting was my husband--she knows he's not able to be home everynight, that's why I asked her to wait. I feel like I'm shock or something. Her and her husband seemed to be such great friends...
2007-01-18 16:10:52 · update #1
Do exactly what she said not be her friend. I don't care who is talking to her at the time. A friend should never go along with no one who is talking about a close friend of theirs. I don't care who it is words hurt peoples feelings and that is not right on her part. It is time that you find new friends someone who you know will not talk about you to her husband and no one else. You are her friend and she should not agree with him let him think what he wants. If your friendship really meant a lot to her she would be trying to defend you or just flat out ignore him. There are friends out there who will treat you better than that go out and find you some new friends ones you can trust who want talk or degrade you behind your back. You caught that part there is no telling what else she has agreed with him about.
2007-01-18 15:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep her as a friend. Just don't talk to her husband ever again. But, if you don't want to be her friend anymore she gave you perfect leeway right there! However, her story seems believable to me. Whether she might be going along or that's her own personal opinion, she might not be such trustworhty friend as you might have hoped for. I would keep her as a friend but I would be careful about the personal information I share with her.
2007-01-19 00:15:24 · answer #2 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately don't make an effort to be her friend - she obviously doesn't feel the same way about your relationship as you do and a true friend is someone who says nice things about you behind your back. Sorry to say this but you need to get another friend - this one will do nothing but use and abuse!!
2007-01-18 23:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cool that friendship down in a hurry. Now you know how she really thinks of you, and then she tries to blame it on her hubby?
Doesn't make sense. SHE voluntarily calls you these names and then she laughs about it with others? Clearly, she wasn't just going along to make her hubby not argue. No way!
2007-01-19 00:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is pretty terrible of a friend to treat you that way. I would give her one last chance....but if anything else happends just lose her, and find some friends that will be good to you, like you deserve to be treated!!
2007-01-18 23:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last part of your statement didn't,t make since... But if your so called friend is talking about you then you need to go on your way and part as is.....
2007-01-18 23:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by RIchard H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL THAT IS NOT A TRUE FRIEND,AND YOU NEED TO CONFRONT HER ON WHAT YOU HEARD,.IF IT WAS ME , I WOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING WHILE I HAD HER ON THE PHONE.
HONEY SHE IS THE AIR HEAD,YOU NEED TO FIND A NEW BEST FRIEND ,I AM HERE IF YOU NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO,COULD ALWAYS USE A NEW BEST FRIEND
2007-01-18 23:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by PEACHES 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, now you know what she is really like. I would drop her like a bad habit. No true friend would say that about you. She is a two faced B.
2007-01-18 23:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop her...she obviously doesn't care about your feelings because she lets others tell her how to feel about you...you want friends who like you for you...
Tell her she's mud...and that all of her friends roll around in it with her...
2007-01-18 23:57:52 · answer #9 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a chance, but the next time she does something like this, cut her loose.
2007-01-19 00:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by Cayla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋