How is the best way to convince my 7 week old Grandson he doesn't need held all the time?

Answer 1

My goodness ! There is no best way to convince him ! He needs to be held alot ...he's a newborn. But of course not ALL the time . You can wrap him up tightly in a warm blanket so that he feels the desired level of warmth. It is just a need to feel warm at this age. He is too young to differentiate whether he is being actually cuddled or tightly wrapped up in a blanket .

Answer 2

I'm a mom of 4 kids with my youngest being 19 months old and would suggest that if you have a bouncy seat or swing that that may soothe him in the same fashion as when he is held.
He may still want to be swaddled if he likes to feel that tight feeling of being close to someone. My kids never really were too clingy because I started introducing them to other places to be at a early age, so maybe try that (swing/bouncy seat) and hopefully he will settle down soon. Oh, and if you don't have the above the car seat works too and just rock him gently.

Congratulations and Best Wishes to the new family. :)

Answer 3

i have a 11 week old so i know what u mean it does seem like u cant get anything sone cause they always want to cry...but if the baby falls asleep when u hold it the i find the best thing to do is to hold it a few mins let it fall asleep have a rag or blanket ready already rolled up lay the baby down when it falls asleep and lay the rolled up blanket up against it but far enough down where its not near the face and make sure the blanket has you perfume or sent on it ....also a baby doll work....another thing is to make sure it gets held some u want it to feel loved but when its not fussing make sure not to hold it at all because then thats all its gonna know

Answer 4

obviously you were a stellar mother

Actually, if your grandson is indicating a desire to be held, it's because he NEEDS to be held - babies this age (until at least 6 months old) have wants that are their needs - they're one and the same. Obviously he needs the closeness and comfort of loving human contact. Since you are not able to provide that, you probably shouldn't be alone with him.



quote: "As painful as it might be .... you will just have to leave him cry it out. Otherwise if you keep giving in and picking him up he will just keep wanting to be held more, it is better to stop this problem now than to try and stop it later at age 1 or 2. (He cant talk yet. LOL) "

OMG! I just read this and it broke my heart!!!! better to break him of the desire to be held and loved and responded to? better to let him know now in the beginning of his life that those that are supposed to love him most are entirely unwilling to meet his needs? better to learn now that he can only rely upon himself, that the world is a cold and cruel place??? WTF is wrong with people??? No WONDER there are responses and ways of thinking like this --- YOU were likely left to just wail and wail and be scared and alone while your mother/father/relative had 'better' things to do than have to respond to your need! That is appalling!

Answer 5

You really can't. A 7 week old doesn't have that kind of ability to process. When he cries, he really needs something. He really can't be spoiled at this age. When he's about 5 or 6 months old, you can start training him to be more independent but at 7 weeks, I think it's unreasonable to expect that. A 7 week old newborn may very well need to feel secure all the time.

(Not that I'm saying you are an unreasonable person...it's just an unreasonable expectation)

Answer 6

At 7 weeks old they do need to be held all the time, from everything that I've read on baby's, you can not spoil them that young.

Answer 7

He's 7 weeks old. He does need to be held all the time.

Answer 8

Try swaddling him, at that young age he night be having some tummy discomfort also, that might be his wanting to be cuddled/held. My little one was the same ...she had colic & if i wasn't holding her she was screaming. I swaddled her tight, changed her formula, gave her gas drops, exercised her legs like a bicicyle (helps babys relieve gas) & ran the vacuumm (the sound always calmed her) A bouncy seat/swing with the vibrations was nice too!

Congrats on your new grandson!! :)

Answer 9

At 7 weeks old, you should hold him as much as he wants to be held. It will help him to grow up feeling more self-confident and secure to know that someone is there when he needs them. Right now he's only beginning to LEARN trust. Help him. You can't spoil a baby by holding him. So snuggle away!

Answer 10

hold him while you can cause they grow fast and then they dont want to be held like my two year old son I'd give anything for him to be 7 weeks again plus if hes only 7 weeks he still needs the closeness its a comfort thing for him.