2007-01-18 15:40:08 · 68 answers · asked by Zelda Hunter 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your spouse sounds insecure.Afraid to lose you.
2007-01-18 15:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by Matty G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHEN YOUR SPOUSE TRIES TO ISOLATE YOU FROM FRIENDS IT USUALLY MEANS THEY'RE VERY INSECURE IN THE RELATIONSHIP AND AFRAID IF THEY DO MAKE A MISTAKE AND DO SOMETHING THEY DON'T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS BEING ABLE TO COME BACK AND TELL YOU. IT'S ALSO A SIGN FOR ABUSE FROM THAT SPOUSE. WARNING GET OUT BEFORE IT GETS WORSE AND NEVER GIVE UP YOUR FRIENDS NO MATTER WHAT BECAUSE THEY WILL BE THERE WHEN THE STORM IS GOING ON ,THRU IT AND AFTER IT. YOUR FRIENDS ARE YOUR SHIELD AND THEY SEE MORE FROM LOOKING OUTSIDE THAN YOU CAN SEE INSIDE.
2007-01-23 11:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by lisa r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of the word "control" ???? This is a bad thing that he is doing because he feels insecure and wants to be the only kid on the block ? Go to library and get the self help books on misogynists. It tells about the controlling men who isolate their women because they have problems from childhood and more likely the are scared and insecure and want you to make up what Mommy or dad did not give them as a child and you will more than likely suffer psychical abuse too as time goes by.
2007-01-18 15:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is all about control of your life. Please consider if you want to subject yourself to this kind of life. It will never get better, maybe worse.Ask yourself, why does your spouse want you to be isolated? Are they afraid of something? Everyone needs friends every now and then. It can be a very lonely existence for you. Tell your self does your spouse have a set of friends?Start asking your self if this relationship is really worth it?
2007-01-18 15:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by chilly bean 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have seen this before, it is not uncommon. It suggests to me that the spouse has a problem that needs to be fixed. It might be a control issue but it may be insecurity about the relationship. In any case it is not healthy or normal and needs to be addressed, particularly if it upsets you being separated from good friends.
2007-01-26 14:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it means he is either insecure or controlling-- maybe both. My ex-husband was like that. He wasn't a bad guy, but he was totally miserable in life. He didn't have any friends and didn't care much for his family-- (should have been a huge sign!!) If it bothers you, definitely talk to him about it. He won't change though, so see if you can make a compromise-- (i.e. you have Wednesday night with the girls). It could be a big problem in the big picture if you don't figure it out now. Good luck.
2007-01-26 13:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by MissTx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants all your attention for himself. He's a controller. Don't let him isolate you from your friends, you DO have a choice in the matter. He may be jealous of the friendships you have. If you have friends who are part of a couple, do couple things together. That will make him part of the circle of friends. Otherwise, spend good quality time with him, but make sure you still spend some time with your friends, too.
2007-01-18 15:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the extreme here. Does he want you to never spend time with your friends... true isolation or is he just not wanting you with them every night of week? If it is true isolation (he wants you to have no time with your friends) he is either very dependant or very controlling... chances are he is both. You don't want this in your life... trust me. If you keep him around he will be telling you what to do, how to do it, how many times to do it... he will isolate you period... not just from friends. This is not healthy !
2007-01-24 06:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by AMoRous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It starts with the friends then it goes further. Hopefully your friends are respectable people showing he has no reason to isolate you from them. He is being controlling. Controlling gets worse if you do not bring it to a halt soon. This is a form of abuse to keep you to himself, keeping an eye on you and your where abouts. I assure you from there it can lead to abusive behavior. Apparently he is insecure in this relationship. Beware and take notice of his verbal abuse as well. It goes down hill from there.
2007-01-18 15:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by Samantha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It probably means that he is very insecure. It scares me to hear that because I fear it is a characteristic of abuse.
Does he allow you free time to yourself? Does he check up on you constantly? Does he have too much input into what you do, wear and etc? Do you feel like you are a whole person with him and have some sort of independence?
I would think about some of these things with great thought. I would hate for you to get caught in a situation that includes abuse.
2007-01-26 15:07:55 · answer #10 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he is insecure about your interests, hobbies, work and friends or anything that does not include you. It means that you have to honor yourself by continuing to have friends and persue hobbies and interests that do not include him. This does not necessary mean that he is a control freak or abuser. It is the mark of both but so is having hands. See if doing things as a couple balanced with friends and alone time does not ease his insecurity.
2007-01-26 01:26:27 · answer #11 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋