Please be thorough.. What is a man missing if he is 50, and a virgin?

Question

I am not this man, and I am not a priest. so I couldnt explain further. I only wished to know what could be missing from such a man, I think I have found some interesting points.

Answer 1

The most attractive thing in Vaishali, the capital city of Lichhavis, was the beautiful dancer Amrapali. She was named after the mango grove she was first found in. Everybody was eager to win her love. She chose to be the Nagarvadhu, wife to the whole city.

One day, Amrapali saw a young monk. Mesmerised by his calm and attractive presence, she followed him. The sanyasi settled down beneath a mango tree, unmindful of her presence. Unable to attract his attention, she spoke: “Sir, please introduce yourself. Why do you lead an ascetic life in your youth?”

“In search of Truth”, replied the monk. Amrapali was first taken aback. She then teased him: “Of what use is the Truth that wastes your youth?” The monk smiled: “Lady, Absolute Happiness can only be attained thus for the happiness you seek is transitory pleasure”.

Amrapali persisted. “Dear, leave this delusion and enjoy my hospitality which even royalty desires to experience”, offered Amrapali. The monk thought for a moment and said, “I will ask my master. If he allows me, I will come”. Then he took out a ripe Amra Phal (mango) from his bag and gave it to her with the instruction that the fruit be preserved without decay till his return.

The monk returned to Buddha’s shelter and narrated the incident. Buddha gave him permission to stay with Amrapali, much to the puzzlement of other disciples. Buddha calmly said, “I have looked into his eyes — there was no desire. If I had said ‘no’, even then he would have obliged. I trust his meditation”.

In the meantime...>>


In the meantime, Amrapali tried all methods to keep the mango fresh, but failed. After one month, the young monk returned. Passionately infatuated, she approached him. The monk ordered, “Lady! Bring me the Amra Phal”. She did so; but the mango had decayed, emitting foul odour and was full of worms.

She asked, “Dear, of what use is this rotten fruit to you?” The monk slowly removed the mango-stone from the fruit. Showing her the rotten skin, he spoke, “Where has the beauty, aroma and taste of the fruit gone? Whereas, the mango-stone is intact and free of decay”. “Of what use is this mango-stone”, argued the courtesan.

The monk smilingly explained, “The mangostone is the most useful. As a seed, it has the potential to regenerate a new body. Likewise, a human being’s meditation is never wasted. This mango-stone signifies the eternal Soul. The protection of the Soul is the real shield; that is the absolute Happiness. Recognise this Truth, Amrapali. You, who could not save the decay of this Amra Phal, how long can you protect your own body from disintegration?”

The Nagarvadhu was speechless; it was as if she had been awakened from a deep sleep. Moved, she asked forgiveness of the young monk. She felt cleansed and expressed her desire to see the monk’s master.

Later, Buddha visited Vaishali and stayed at Amrapali’s abode. She touched Buddha’s feet and said, “I tried my best to attract your monk, but he convinced me by his awareness that real life is in your shelter”. She renunciated the life of a courtesan and donated her belongings to the Buddhist Sangha.

Buddha accepted her in the monastery as a disciple, to the chant of “Sangham sharanam gachhami, Dhammam sharanam gachhami”.

Answer 2

The answer depends on what the subject most values. If the subject values corporeal fulfillment over spiritual fulfillment then the 50 year old virgin misses everything. If the subject values the spirit over the corporeal, then the subject should be able to find fulfillment in things other than simple sex.
But, this assumes that the subject is looking for little other than simple sex. This is ephemeral and will lead to more feelings of discomfort than feelings of satisfaction.
If the subject is looking for sex with a person whom they bond with, then the act reduces the corporeal and becomes something more significant. In this case, the 50 year old virgin would miss out on everything.
In such a case where the virgin is looking for more than simple sex, not only would the virgin miss out on the act of bonding itself, but perhaps the welcome outcome of offspring, which is another deeper realm of spiritual happiness and satisfaction. Most of the time.

Answer 3

Its not whats missing, its what hes MISSED & can never experience

But yes, young love, courting, companionship, wife, sex, children, grandchildren, great grandchildren, nurturing them & watching them all grow up, having a family, socializing with other families on the same level, an heir and the other 1001 things you get from having a family

Hes missed honoring God by NOT going forth and mutiplying

Should everyone take this stance in life then there would be noone to inherit the earth - the end of mankind

Answer 4

my first answer was - he is missing honesty.

Well granted that he I still a virgin, I hope he has diverted the most powerful engine to some good work and achieved something great.

Sex is enlightening, fun and a great bonding glue between soulmates. I wonder if you can learn the real human nature without having such relationship,

Answer 5

At its best, sex is about two becoming one. So he would be missing that.

But, he would have knowledge that those who don't remain a virgin miss out on:

He would know what its like to be a 50 year old virgin.

Answer 6

He is missing being 51, and a virgin!

Pardon if I am not thorough enough but I hope this information helps.

Answer 7

A wife,family.

Answer 8

sex is a part of human emotion and offers a connection like no other. I would think not ever experiencing that connection would affect someone emotionally and mentally.

Answer 9

at the age of fifty though man have lot og money ,respected social life and so on...............but surely he will miss why he wont used natures, gift to him for getting plasure ,mind peace love and affection

Answer 10

He is missing opportunities for companionship and love among his generation and those shortly after him.