has anyone ever been in a marriage where you know your husband/wife doesn't love you but your trying to stick it out until your ready to leave that person.... and if so how do you handle that situation?
2007-01-18 15:32:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I personally was in a situation as I was married to someone who did what I never thought could happen to me. I was tired of the things she did towards me and I started to fall out of love with her. The only thing that kept me around was my son and looking to hopfully grow that love back. It only got worse by the day until I was tired of it all. I knew that my son didn't deserve to be in a situation like that. For us to be unhappy for him. He would've been happy as long as we were happy. I was once told before I made the move to leave was, " One you will not care. And then you will find what it's like to be happy." It was not a crude remark, just contructive inspiration. Don't stick it out. It will only hurt more at the end. Better said than done, I know, but just get the courage and go on the leap of faith.
2007-01-18 15:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me..did that. 28 years married. Lived in the basement for about 8 months after being told that she didn't love me anymore and I should consider moving on. After which I moved out and she then came around to talk reconcile. I went to talk to her and she talked about her work for 3 hours. So, I moved on to another house and eventually felt it too hard to stay in the area at all and moved way south to start over. I must say it was a beach with mixed emotions and alot of tears over the past two years. I have filed for the Big D and feel crappy. We didn't much communicate living in the same house and it was understood I would be leaving as soon as I was financially sound enough to do so. She made no attempt to stop or communicate anything that said "stay"...Mostly, for me, it was finding purpose in what seemed like the end of my life. Time heals all they say. Hold your head up is the best I can tell you. It really hurts and you will question your own self time and time again. Get a lawyer..not so much to be a nasty person. Protect your interest from where you had been, you are already in a mental trauma and dealing with much more than staying alive can be too confusing.
2007-01-22 08:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by kedoedecker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband started fooling around, never coming home except later and later. I tried tried to be the wife he wanted even before
his running around. The more I tried the more I seemed to fail. I did not have to walk out of the marriage he did however I was trying to wait for the right time to do so. Little did I know
the right time was when he was acting up. I put myself through more unnecessary grief than needed. It has left me today with stomach/nerve problems. When you have had enough it will be easy to end it all, I assure you..
2007-01-18 15:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by Samantha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this same situation too, but he left me. Then this was when God got my attention and God put me on the right path. He showed me all the things that I had been doing wrong in my life. He showed me how he could restore that love again for my husband and now I love my husband more than I have ever loved him. He also showed & told me that he is coming back home. I will be praying for you & your husband!
2007-01-18 15:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by scolburn1961 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, go in prayer and ask God to lead you in the matter.
Second, go and talk with your husband/wife and ask him/her one more time how do he/she really feel about you.
If he/she say they don't love you, it time for a divorce. If your have kids sat down and talk with them. Be honesty.
Know one should live like that. It's not good for you are the other person.
God want us to be happen. But remember one thing, you must still love that person spiritual.
I will be praying for you and your husband/wife.
GOD BLESS!!!!
2007-01-18 15:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by GOD IS LOVE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would complete a plan quickly to proceed with a divorce. That is precisely what I did when it was evident my x was no longer interested in being a loving husband.
2007-01-18 15:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know this person does not love you? Did they tell you this specifically? If not, then you need to talk to your spouse and find out exactly how they do feel. Also evaluate your own feelings and then decide what you need to do about the relationship.
2007-01-18 15:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has the husband/wife said they don't love you?
Don't assume.
2007-01-18 15:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to still be with a man who doesn't love you? my marriage fell to pieces when i found out my husband fell in love with his long-time friend, and i still loved him, but no way in hell was i going to stay with him. we lived together as roommates for a few weeks before i moved out. i suggest you move out and get a lawyer. good luck to you!
2007-01-18 15:43:58 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know ppl who have done this..... they kept it civil and low key and seperate bed rooms for about 6 months, while debts were paid, money but into savings for each person, kids were adjusting to it, etc....... God bless
2007-01-18 15:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋