do you think it's right or fair for me to settle for joint custody with a father that owes over1100 dollars in child support.rarely sees his kids , but can go on vacations?
2007-01-18 15:27:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't want people to think i'm holding my kids away for money. i'm just saying that's what's happening. instead of buying things his kids need he blows it on himself. he was away in the military all my daughter;s life. when he got out early (almost 2 years early) he didn't try to connect with her or anything. he thought it was better to hang out with friends and go out at night. my daughter doesn't know him as dad or anything. Yet she can tell you the name of the main penguin in the movie happy feet. she's only 2.
2007-01-19 04:58:41 · update #1
no. take him back to court
2007-01-18 15:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he rarely sees his kids and legally has the same rights as you then no, I don't think it's fair because he is doing this by choise. I wouldn't take the kids from him though. It will hurt the children. If he is trying to pay some child suport then fine. When he gets his taxes done, you will end up with all that money anyway. So what if he goes on vacation anyway. Your kids will see for themselves what kind of father he is without you telling them bad stuff. Keep your kids on your side by not saying anything negative and letting the father's true colors come out.
2007-01-18 23:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by toothfairy.2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holding your kids hostage from there father for a mere 1100.00 dollars is silly. There are programs the help you collect. If he is an important part of your children's life (I mean if he is a creep then forget him) then they should have full access to there father. Money is material, family is life.
2007-01-18 23:32:09 · answer #3 · answered by cascadeknee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope...he is an irresponsible person, dun let ur kids suffer cos of his selfishness. Seems he dun even care abt the kids so what's the point of having joint custody?
2007-01-18 23:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no! girl, you better fight for full custody if that's what is in their best interest! if he doesn't want them in his life, why should you let him have joint custody? my ex-husband has joint custody(for the time being) and hasn't seen his daughter in 8 months. half of her life he has not seen her. if he doesn't want the responsibility of parenting, screw him!
2007-01-18 23:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about what the children need and whats best for them other than just money, is it better for the children to have both parents around?
2007-01-18 23:45:16 · answer #6 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you need to do what right for you and your child, if
he can go on vacations and do what ever he want then he'
can support his child. regardless if he see them are not, he
has to do what is right and it sound like he trying to get over.
2007-01-18 23:32:26 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do what ever is in the best interest of the children.
2007-01-18 23:32:03 · answer #8 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl that sounds hard I would say NO!
2007-01-18 23:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by baby_mamma123456789 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋