MY BOYFRIEND IS 17 && IM 15 && UMM IM PREGNANT. SHOULD I KEEP THE BABY OR GET AN ABORTION.
2007-01-18 15:11:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
At least carry the baby to term and put it up for adoption, here's why...
This is going to be gruesome but I am going to share my abortion experience!
Unless you can afford general anesthetic you are awake for the entire proceedure and often they do not use enough local for you not to feel everything too.
So anyhow first they take you into a room, just like the kind you have a pap-smear in and put you on an exam table and put you in sturups, just like you're having a pelvic exam, then they take this long needle and stab your vagina with it which hurts like hell then they put in the local anesthetic, this whole time the butcher and his "Nurse" will probably be talking amongst themselves like your not there. Then they will stick a hook up inside you and wiggle it around, you'll feel a tearing sensation and you might even hear a pop or a ripping sound. Then you will fell warmth between your legs and hear a roar as they fire up the vaccuum that will suck our your baby, you'll hear grinding noises at it cuts the childs tiny body into shreds. You will feel the life literally being torn out of you. Heaven forbid you should cry or scream they are terribly unsympathetic, did I mention you can't take anyone in with you for support?
Or the fact a childs heart begins to beat and they brain is formed with in the first month of life.
By week five from your last period your child has a beating heart!!!!!!!!
Did I also mention that when you do decide to have a child every time you look into his or her face you wonder about that child that you should have had...mine should have been six right now...knowing the fathers family genetics like I do My child would have been a boy...We named him Brandon Jacob...His Birthday would have been in October...The son I have now should have been my second...Did I also mention I have had problems carrying babies to term? My son was a twin and I lost the other, and I've miscarried. Oh and My placenta from my current child didn't detatch from my uterus wall right and I almost bled to death, all of which my doctor attributed to my abortion. Oh and at the birth of my son, when I applied for his birth certificate I had to relive my abortion because they ask you about previous pregnancies and how they ended, something about information for the government.
Now don't get me wrong I have forgiven my self, but I do take every opportunity I can to help girls understand that abortion is not a quick fix, it has lasting results and it is not as easy or as painless as they would like you to believe.
PS WHATEVER YOU DECIDE YOU MAY WANT TO GET INTO COUNCILING, EITHER WAY YOU'LL HAVE ISSUES YOU NEED TO DEAL WITH.
Source(s):
Experience and "Your Pregnancy Week by Week"
2007-01-18 15:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by gourmetkid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally your decision all the way. If you want to keep it then you should if your parents are behind you and you have a way to get finished with school because staying in school is the smartest thing i have done after getting pregnant at 14 and having a baby girl at 15. You should really think this over and follow your heart at what would be the best for you. If you dont have the heart to have an abortion there is always adoption. There is tones of couples out there that want a baby and you can make sure it is in good hands. Whatever you do use YOUR head and heart and dont listen to what other people say its your choice not theres
2007-01-18 16:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by honeylove787878 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I definitly cant and wont tell you what to do, in the end it's all up to you, and only you. But since you did ask everyones opinion!! I really think you should keep the baby, there are so many other options you have other than abortion. And there are so many people who would love to have a baby that cant have one. Well I hope you make the right decision for you and you only!!! Remember there are so many people that will help you, finish school, even go on to college and get a good job. Well God Bless and I hope He Guides you in the right direction!!!
2007-01-18 15:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by Nacole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 16 when i got pregnant and the father thought i should have an abortion. I ended up keeping the baby, and i have been taking care of her by myself since she was born. So if you truly want this child then keep it! If i can do, i am sure you can do it! The moment you hold that child, you will know that every you will do for him/her will be worth it!! its hard, but its the greatest feeliing in the world! But if you dont think you should keep the child the i suggest you at least go full term and put the child up for adoption! best wishes!
2007-01-18 16:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by miss thANG!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey that is really a question you and your boyfriend should be sitting down and talking about with both sets of parents.i personally don't like abortions,but to each it's own.i know that raising a baby is a hard job as an adult,so imagine if you are a teenager who still has the rest of your life to think about having a baby?but don't abort the baby give it up to maybe a family member who might want another child.PLEASE DON"T ABORT THE BABY
2007-01-18 15:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by sassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, whatever you do, do not get an abortion! You will regret it for the rest of your life! I speak from experience. But the decision to keep it, or maybe put it up for adoption?, is up to you! Babies are such blessings and you would not regret keeping it. (and no matter what anyone tells you, babies are not that expensive! I have a 2 year old, now, and he has everything you could ever possibly imagine, and it did not break me one bit. I am a single mom living off a server salary.)
2007-01-18 15:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have to say no, i was adopted and i always think wow there could of been a chance that i could of been aborted , and am so lucky my birth mom decided to have me even if she gave me up for adoption, my life has been great. at least i had a chance. my mom was only 13 when she had me. if you have family support i so have the baby, although it is a lot of time and effort and no freedom but you won't regret it in the long run, i was was young when i had my daughter who is now six and love every minute of it and would never change it for the world.
2007-01-18 15:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by christina c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noone should ever get an abortion there is always a chance for adoption but u guys think it over and then decide.. dont let anyone influence ur choice.. i was a young mom and i wouldnt trade her for the world
2007-01-18 15:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Punch your self, do something relaxing that would not contain speaking, typing, or the different type of verbal change. Then punch your self back. stay in college and get good grades. bypass to school, the position you may't use this language for formal papers. Then punch your self back in case you want to. Repeat on a daily basis.
2016-10-15 10:38:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 31 and can't have children I would do anything to trade places with you! You will never regret having this child, you will always regret not keeping it. Things happen, you have to make the best of it. Good luck to you and your baby.
2007-01-18 15:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by zib 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋