1 wife 1 husband and two different religions?

Question

well my husband and i are newlyweds its been almost 7months since we've been married. we are very young (going on 20) but i love him and i dont regret our love or marriage, but our religions are one thing that keep us apart. and i hate that but we've talked it out and we've decided to go to our seperate churches. Im a Pentacostal and hes a Jehovah witness and beside that everything is fine but the problem is when we start having children thats when tha problem start. our kids are going to be confused and mixed between mommy and daddy religions. and i dont want to argue about who's going with who on Sundays or what religion our child will become. when tha rite time comes i want children and its stressing me out about how to go about this matter.i feel that we will never come to a conclusion about how we should raise our child, and im scared...

Answer 1

I know the feeling, my soon to be husband is 20 and so am i. He is Jehovah witness and i am catholic.

When we decided that we wanted to get married we had a long discussion about what we would do if we were going to have children and we came up with this.

We will switch them between the two religions until they are able to decide for themselves, as i am a catholic it doesn't really matter when you get baptised and with Jehovah witness they have to wait till they are older.

My father is very religious and my bf's family is also but we have decided this and it is our decision.

So when it comes down to it just speak with him

Answer 2

It actually isn't as big a deal as it seems., unless religion rules your lives already 9but since you've been togather this long I doubt it).
My husband is Catholic, and although I was raised a Babtist I am currently seeking. We have been togather nine years, married four of those years. We have two six year olds (twins). This is what we do...maybe it will help.
Ever since they were infants we've taken them to different churches. We go to his church sometimes, and sometimes we try out other churches. When our kids ask questions concerning beleif and religion, we answer by using many different religions points of veiw so they can form their own opinions.
The important thing to remember is that religion did not get in the way of you falling in love. If the love is there, everything else is fluid... Best of luck to you both!

Answer 3

A part of being married is about being able to respect each other. And that includes being able to respect each other beliefs and opinions.
As far as kids are concerned, teach your kids both belief systems. Once they are old enough they would be able to understand the values that each religion possesses and will be able to choose their own path.
Don't let religion come between the two of you. Afterall, all religions teach you how to be good humanbeings. Religion is a base for peace. Not arguments. So be happy being married and leave out the religious arguments!

Answer 4

Well thats a tough one. You either have to teach them both religions adn tell them that they are both wonderful in their own way, and when they are older you let them deside which way they would like to go. Perhaps when you go to your chuch and your husband his you leave the kids with someone who can baby sit them, as you don't want to vavour one church over the other. I mean unless one Sunday they go with you and the other Sunday they go with him. You seem to have a great relasionship don't let religon get in the way of being happy.

Answer 5

I dont think you shall have any problems having children. My mother is Muslim and my dad is Catholic, and I am just fine. In contrast to what you believe, I think that this gives your future children the opprotunity to explore various religions and decide. I think that might also have a positive effect on their intelligence.

Answer 6

you shouldnt be marrying a suitable sibling no count number what faith or gov't you reside under.... notwithstanding if listed under are the info... a suitable couple have a 6% possibility of having a disabled newborn a non-suitable couple have a 4% possibility.... notwithstanding you elect to entice from those values is as much as you yet undesirable issues ensue while kin members marry and have teenagers. yet another actuality.... its criminal in over 30 states to marry a 1st cousin as long as you won't be in a position to have infants...

Answer 7

Boy, ya'll are at the opposite ends of the faith factor here.... sorry, but I know both religions well...... and that is why I do NOT attend a man made church... sorry, just being honest here......I have no sure fired answer for ya.... but, I know this, PRAY !!! When the time comes for children it will already be worked out... STOP stressing and use your faith to deal with all this by letting GOD deal with it....... God bless

Answer 8

This is an issue you should have resolved BEFORE getting married. As it is, you and your husband need to seek couples counselling to explore what the best answer to your question would be. At the end of the day, if you can't find a compromise, even with the help of a therapist, I don't see any future for your marriage.

Answer 9

Scripturally as the head of your family, your husband has the responsibility of choosing what is best for the family.

This doesn't mean you have no voice in the matter, but as your husband and the father of your children, he is the family head.

The best 'witness' you can provide your children is your example of submission the bible principles.

1 Pet. 3:1 In like manner, YOU wives, be in subjection to YOUR own husbands, in order that, if any are not obedient to the word, they may be won without a word through the conduct of [their] wives, 2 because of having been eyewitnesses of YOUR chaste conduct together with deep respect. 3 And do not let YOUR adornment be that of the external braiding of the hair and of the putting on of gold ornaments or the wearing of outer garments, 4 but let it be the secret person of the heart in the incorruptible [apparel] of the quiet and mild spirit, which is of great value in the eyes of God. 5 For so, too, formerly the holy women who were hoping in God used to adorn themselves, subjecting themselves to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah used to obey Abraham, calling him “lord.” And YOU have become her children, provided YOU keep on doing good and not fearing any cause for terror.

If you undermine the headship arrangement, you will under mining the authority of the bible in the eyes of your children.

"Mom doesn't follow bible teachings, so why should I"

will become your children's thoughts.

Answer 10

This matter is perhaps easier to resolve when the wife is one of Jehovah's Witnesses; the Christian Congregation of Jehovah's Witnesses continually reminds its adherents of the plain bible teaching that a Christian woman must be submissive to her husband (whether he is a believer or unbeliever). If a "Pentacostal [sic]" wife intends to live in harmony with this explicit bible principle, then the problem is resolved similarly.

(1 Peter 3:1,2) You wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, in order that, if any are not obedient to the word, they may be won without a word through the conduct of their wives, 2 because of having been eyewitnesses of your chaste conduct together with deep respect

(Romans 7:2) A married woman is bound by law to her husband while he is alive; but if her husband dies, she is discharged from the law of her husband.

(1 Corinthians 11:3) The head of a woman is the man [that is, her husband]

(Ephesians 5:22) Let wives be in subjection to their husbands as to the Lord


How is the "problem" resolved? By submitting to any reasonable direction of the god-appointed family head: the husband.

While a Christian wife herself would never submit to a practice she knew to displease God, she would have to accept the husband's right as family head to make such decisions for his children; she would recognize that the relative "guilt" for any god-dishonoring practice would fall on the husband rather than on the minor child.

The Scriptures plainly teach that as long as a minor child has at least ONE faithful Christian parent, that minor child has valid hope for salvation despite any and all failings of the unbelieving parent.

(1 Corinthians 7:14) For the unbelieving husband is sanctified in relation to his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified in relation to the brother; otherwise, your children would really be unclean, but now they are holy.


Of course a godly parent would work incessantly to train her children to gain spiritual maturity so that the child could himself choose to one day (perhaps by his early teens) make it clear to the unbelieving parent that the child now intends to "obey God" when any human command seems to conflict the child's growing sense of his own responsibility to godly standards.

(Acts 5:29) We must obey God as ruler rather than men.

(Matthew 10:35-37) For [Jesus] came to cause division, with a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a young wife against her mother-in-law. Indeed, a man’s enemies will be persons of his own household. He that has greater affection for father or mother than for me is not worthy of me


It probably makes sense for husband and wife to learn more about the Scriptural underpinnings for each other's faith. It may be that they find fewer differences than they may initially have assumed. At the least, they can both work together to build faith in the bible and encourage their children to "Follow the Christ"!