how do you tell your parents that you are gay?

Answer 1

Mom.......Dad...........I'm gay.

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Answer 2

My parents were very positive when I came out to them. They were sitting in the living room and my mom was reading a Christmas letter from my cousin and his partner. She asked me if I knew if they were a gay couple. This was the perfect opportunity for me to come out. I said yes, and then said, "This is probably a good time to tell you this, I'm gay. My mom responded by saying "you are?" and then she asked how long I knew and how I knew. I told her I had known a long time and that I just knew. She said that she was glad that I shared it with her. My dad was very quiet and didn't say anything. Although, he is a quiet person anyway. I am sure he is okay with it, because he doesn't act any different around me. Later that evening my mom came in to my room and again thanked me for telling her, she said she knew it must have been hard for me and that I could talk to her about it whenever I wanted and that she loved me. Luckily, I have very great and understanding parents. Like me, you might still feel uncomfortable for a while after telling them. It didn't last long, and things are back to normal for me. Good luck. I'm sure your parents will understand.

Answer 3

That is never an easy thing to do, even if you think your parents will except u. I agree with the first answerer that if you are young, and living under their roof still, or they are still paying your way thru college, and you feel this may affect that in any way, keep it to yourself for now. Otherwise, just say, Hey mom and dad, I have a very difficult thing to tell you and Id appreciate if you would support me on this decision to live my life as I am. And go from there kid! Good luck.

Answer 4

I accidently came out at eleven not actually sure what it was and my mom accepted it and also told me not to tell my dad. I say tell your parent that is there for you the most and they will accept it, even if it doesn't feel like it at first. If its one thing i know, its that you know whether or not your parents love you. and if you know that they do. Than it would be good to have a bigger support team so you dont have to do this on your own.

Answer 5

Walk in the front door with your boy friend plant a big wet kiss
on his lips and say Mom ...Dad I'm gay! Then walk your boyfriend
up to your room and make loud noisy love for an hour.
They should have the picture after that.

Answer 6

It really wasn't that hard. I think they knew long before I told them that I was gay. It was much harder to tell them that I was transgender though.

Anyway, it's all in the past, they are pretty supportive of me now and my mom even spoke at a PFLAG gathering.

Answer 7

You don't have to. If you want them to know because you're afraid they might not love you if they knew then the decision is really whether you want to cause a big riff. Your parents should always love you no matter what and they might get upset for awhile, but they never stop loving you.

Answer 8

If you are young and feel like you need support to do this call PFLAG (Parents and friends of lesbians and gays). They are an excellent organization and have many ways of helping you. Try them.

Answer 9

I'm 28, and I just told them a few months ago... my mom actually brought it up. I never found the guts to. It all worked out ok though - they still love me.

There is no right or wrong way. Just do what's comfortable.

Good luck!!

Answer 10

My advice is tell them when you are comfortable. And if you know that they disapprove, wait until you aren't dependent on them. I came out at 16, but I knew my mother would love me no matter what. She and I are really close and she just wants me to be happy.

Answer 11

Check out the PFlag site. They have had a lot of experience from both sides of the conversation.