My husband and I have known each other for 7 years....been dating for 6 years, and have been married for almost a year. I really want to have a child and he wants one too and I think that we're ready...the thing is I'm only 18 and he's only 19. We have the time and energy and love to give the baby...and we're doing ok on money....do you think that we're ready for a child?
2007-01-18 14:49:08 · 7 answers · asked by me&him 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I think that only you can answer that question.If you both feel ready for that commitment,go through with it.If you are ready for the commitment of marriage,then you should be ready for another big commitment as well.If your parents can support you at 17 to get married as well as your friends,then they will be supportive during pregnancy and with baby as well.
The best thing to do is to spend some time with other kids of early age.Maybe sleep over at a friend house who has kids and wake up during the night to help with nappy change and feeding.If you are still convinced after that that you both want your own,go ahead and i hope you have a happy and safe pregnancy.
Good luck with your decision and all of the best.
Jolleen.
2007-01-18 21:11:25 · answer #1 · answered by joe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should give yourselves at least another year together. Although you've been together for seven years, this is the first time that you've really been together alone. You should enjoy being adults before you add another person into the equation. You should experience things like going to bars and dancing all night without worrying about your child with the babysitter. Plus, many couples have to use a whole paycheck from one partner just to pay daycare.
I suggest you befriend a couple with a new baby or a couple with a one year old. Keep up with everything they do/did for the first year of the baby's life. What happens to their finances? What happens with daycare? What problems does the baby go through? Does the couple miss each other since they each spend so much time on/with the baby? Did the mother have postpartum depression (mothers who go throuh this don't like their babies too much - are you willing to chance going through this?)
There are many unexpected occurances/emotions that go with a baby. You need to have a serious in-depth discussion with your husband and another couple instead of posting this on a message board. Good luck.
2007-01-18 15:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by lilacdelight 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've been together for 7 years so if you think you're ready go ahead. If you both want a child and feel ready then go ahead. Just make sure you can support it financially because babies cost a lot of money. :)
2007-01-19 02:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by em<3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would your family and friends say? Do the people that know you the most say your ready? Only you and your partner can say whether you are or not. Have you done everything in life that you wanted to? I.e travel etc. Your whole life is going to revolve around this baby when it comes... are you ready for that?
2007-01-18 14:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by Prettyinred 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want a child at 19? Do you live on a farm? Enjoy your youth it comes only once!!! Don't waste it over sperm in a cup.
2007-01-18 14:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking other people if you are ready, then you are not ready. Wait for several years.
2007-01-22 05:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are financially stable, and married, GO FOR IT!!
2007-01-18 14:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by kabmiller@verizon.net 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋