I've always been curious ever sinceI was 13 I have wanted and wished I could have a baby. Is it natural for a teenage girl to feel this? I am turning 18 soon and that feeling grows ever more. Is it motherly insctinct or am i just messed up?
2007-01-18 14:42:05 · 46 answers · asked by dothejitt3rbug 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It's perfectly natural for a woman to want a baby and natural for a teen girl as well. The trick is not to let it overtake your emotions. That's where mistakes are made.... and HUGE consequenses are paid.
Relax and enjoy your life for a while yet. Remember that a baby is a person, not a pet.
2007-01-18 14:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually yes its common...
You see girls start at most fertile and this declines with age so right now you have the most hormones and therefore greats sex drive. Same sort of thing that makes teenagers pormiscuous.
However the older you get the better able you are to look after a baby as will be better off financilly, more secure and will have done all you travelling and partying and tried out lots of boys to see which ones best and can teach that to kid.
If you have babies now , you will probably end up very poor and the baby will be bady off and you will probably end up in a nasty areas of town living, no money, no freinds, no school, and very hard to find a new boyfriend... which is why you should only have babies with a long terms ie years boyfriend in late twenties.
There is lots to do in life as well as having a baby.
Dont miss out on it all.
I know you are craving but maybe what would help is looking after others babies when you have to deal with aall the poo, and the baby crying all night and stressing the hell out of you. Not being able to go ot ofr have any money etc.
Then that feeling will switch off... much as getting a puppy sounds a nice idea... when reality of poop scoops, walks EVERYDAY, crap in the house, vets fur everywhere etc kicks in,... not so cute...
Yes its motherly instinct only in overdrive and will cloud sensible thinking... Dont have a baby yet...
Tell mum how you feel
2007-01-18 22:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural. It's a part of how our species has survived - people have to want babies otherwise where will the next generation come from?!
That said, along with ancient hormonal drives, you also have a brain! I'm guessing you are not ready to be a mom. Very few people are at 18 years old these days. Remember, it's easy enough to get pregnant and have a baby. The tough part is caring for a baby.
I'm sure you'll want to have a stable life, a source of income, a partner to share the work and the love of a new baby. I think you should spend the next 5 years of your life preparing to have all of those things!
Get the education and training you need to support yourself and a family. Learn more about life, yourself, and what you want (other than a baby!). Then you'll be ready to have that baby and give it a wonderful life.
2007-01-18 14:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by fdm215 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe something has been missing in your life like a mother or father figure or you have felt like you have nothing of your own or that no one loves you? i had some of these issues when i was young to my mom and i didnt get along i had no friends in school i was molested at a young age and all i could ever think about is that one day i would have a baby and it would be all mine and it would have to love me no matter what... well by the time i turned 18 i realized that it wasnt fair to have a baby for that reason alone so i didnt i did get married at the age of 19 and have a baby at 21... and now have 2 kids who are great.. if this is why you are wanting a baby then you really need to think more about it before you act on it. you are very young yet and a baby is great but it will also change your life forever and you will grow up very fast...
2007-01-18 14:49:50 · answer #4 · answered by momoftwobestkids 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though some girls don't admit it, we always think about having baby's at a young age. Although its more about "being a mother" i did! Hun you are not messed up. Do you have a partner? Are you in a stable relationship? If you feel you and your partner are ready to have a baby then go for it!Only making sure you talk to him about it, make sure he wants the same and not doing it behind his back and saying it was an accident. A baby needs a lot of love and attention. You are not 13 anymore. You are a young woman! I had my son at 18 and i am loving every minuet of it
2007-01-22 00:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 18 years old, and I've felt the same way for a long time. I see little ones and all I can think is how much I want one! But I'm not stupid; I know that babies take so much time and effort and they're not toys. They're real people, with real lives, and those lives are in your hands.
There is NOTHING wrong with wanting a baby, even when we're so young. Just remember that wanting something doesn't mean you have to have it, and that the longer you wait, the more of a joy it will be when you finally do hold that wee little life in your arms.
2007-01-18 16:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by Helen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is natural for a woman to want to have a baby. I'm 26 turning 27 next months and i have always wanted a baby ever since i was 16, but i also knew that i was not ready to be a mother. I've been married for 4 months now and I still want to have a baby even now i still think i should take another 2 years before getting pregnant.
2007-01-20 19:06:26 · answer #7 · answered by rose80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi im 19 and a mum to a beautiful 8 month old baby girl im married and love my family very much. I also have always wanted a baby I love kids so when I met my husband we decided to have children young. As much as I love my daughter and would never change her for anything it has been so hard and without my amazing husband I would not have been able to do it. To start with she was 2 weeks early and almost lost her 3 times in a week. She was not feeding well and not putting on alot of weight. She had colic (were baby’s have alot of wind) and reflux (when they always throw up) she wouldn’t sleep well at all. I had to put my shirt that I wore for the day in her bed so she thought I was with her. After 2 weeks of breast feeding we decided to put her on the bottle that was a good thing coz than my husband could help more which he did. The reason she was early was because I had a life threating problem I had high blood pressure very bad swelling and too much protein in my urine so I had to b induced which was painful. I was induced at 10pm and my waters broke at 3:15am from get go my contractions were 2-3 min apart my labor was 13hours and I wont lie it was very painful but our body’s are made to give birth. Her head got stuck and she had to b sucked out which was scary her heart beat was very low and I didn’t no what was happening than at 4:16pm my beautiful baby girl was placed on my tummy it was such an amazing feeling now as I said she is 8 months old crawling teething and falling over. The reason I have told you my story is to let you no its not all bliss it is such hard work and you really need to think it through b4 you decide to have a baby they are beautiful and cuddly but when your up at 3am trying to put them to sleep they are far from beautiful. Im not tiring to get you to change your mind I just think every teen need to think long and hard about having a baby coz it is so hard but ill tell you the good over does the bad by far
but if you do fall pregnant or have a baby i have a MSN group i run that you can come to ask questions and mothers can help answer them and its a great way to meet new friends its for teen mums like myself
http://groups.msn.com/YoungTeenMummys
2007-01-18 16:06:43 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT messed up! It is actually quite common for a young woman to have such motherly wants. Most women just won't admit to it, that's all. Just hang onto those feelings until after you are happily married though. You don't want to be a single mother, struggling through life. If the desire to be around children is slightly overwhelming, consider working in a daycare facility. This will help curb the desire as well as give you the time you feel you need to be around children.
Best wishes and I hope you have a wonderful future with many happy children around you! :-)
2007-01-18 14:47:28 · answer #9 · answered by †♥mslamom♥† 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
noooo. i have only just decided i'm mature enough to try- at 35. i've had a bloody good life so far and now i feel ready.
you don't mention a boyfriend... are you sure its not just because you're feeling a bit neglected and unloved, bored even, and think that by having a baby, you'll have someone who'll appreciate and need you, love you unconditionally? they're not to be taken half-heartedly. you need a strong back-up network around you. i recommend living a little first. seriously. have some fun, see the world. then, when you've got a great bloke (and been with ages, not a month-a year at best, money, time, basically the stable life that's essential to give the mite a fighting chance, then go for life. your kid'll appreciate it too...
2007-01-19 08:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by Ashgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's natural and normal. I'm 21 and my baby fever is worse than ever, but I have experienced phases of wanting a baby since i was 16 or so at least.
I agree with other posters that you should not be concerned about your motherly feelings, but also be careful not to do anything unwise.
2007-01-18 19:48:02 · answer #11 · answered by learning_to_live_616 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋