what would you do if you were me?

Question

i was baby-sitting on new years when the little girl i was baby-sitting told me a story about how she got raped around the age of 5 or 6. she didnt understand it as rape..but i knew, she says shes too embarressed to tell anyone..and then sometimes she would say she already told her mom but her mother didnt believe her. i told her she needs to tell an adult. she says shes too embarressed. she says the boy was a close family friend of the age 17. should i tell her mom myself..or fin out more or what..please help me

Answer 1

again you are required by law to report any suspected case of child abuse. You need to report it to Child Services otherwise you can to be held accountable for child endangerment. I think that you should go straight to the services.. In alot of cases parents don't think that their child is telling the truth (and then they punish the child and the child never tells anyone again and it may happen again to her and she won't say a thing) and alot of child rape is done by family members.

You shouldn't be wasting anymore time on here knowing that a child has possibly been sexually abused.

I'm actually quite offended at you posting possible sexual abuse of a child and not taking it seriously.

Answer 2

I would tell her mother as this is a very serious issue and it should be left like this, especially if the person who raped her was a close family friend.

When i was 14 i was raped by my best friends brother and four of his mates, i left it till it was too late and the police couldn't do anything about it.

If the mother doesn't believe you, you will have to take it further by contacting child services as this child will need help, as she is physically and emotionally scared and if left untreated she will grow up afraid and think that she is all alone in the world, when you could have really helped her.

Answer 3

You definitely have to tell someone. Your just as guilty as the other person if you sit back and do nothing. If you are truly concerned talk to the mother about it...if she persist that nothing happened and you still have bad feelings....then get on the phone and call the children services....in the phone book...be prepared to have the girls name address etc and a description of what went on...you will feel better...no one will know its you its all anonymous...i've had to do this...and it sucks cuz there are many mothers who don't believe their daughthers when they say this has happend...WTF...it doesnt matter how old she is now or when it happend still report it...my good friend is 17 now and she just turned in her granddad last year cuz he molested her...she'd been living with it for so long and finally got it out and she felt so much better cuz of it. Find out what you can and then call...it will not hurt to be on the safe side...better safe than sorry good luck

Answer 4

Well, since she already tried to tell her mom, but her mom didn't listen, I would call the police or visit the police station. Tell them what she has told you.

Just do the right thing. You are now her witness, because she told you about what happened to her. Take notes on this because if the police do try to arrest someone who raped her, you may be called as a witness in court. So do the right thing.

Plus, this girl may need some counseling too.

Answer 5

I don't know what I'd do if I were you, I think I'd tell the girls mother, but then also tell the little girl ther's nothing to be embarressed about. Offer to listen to anything she has to say and just be there for her. It is unthinkable what one could do to another. Let her know you believe her and that others will too eventually. Just be her friend. Good luck with everything!

Answer 6

I would definatly tell someone. And if the mom doesn't belive you then I would call child services and tell them that you were worried about what the girl had told you and wanted to let someone know. I myself was raped when I was 13..and never told anyone..for all you know it could still be going on and she is really scared. Its not a happy experience.

Answer 7

You should report this to the police because she is obviously not safe with her mother because she doesn't believe the child. There is a reason the little girl told you........... in her way she is begging you to help her and i hope you do. Please tell authorities and get her out of that situation because there are to many kids in this world going through that and it has to be stopped.

Answer 8

If you can, try to go to a school counsellor and see what they can do about it. In many cases children don't make up stories like that and if it isn't all truth there is most likely some truth to it. Try talking to your parents about it and see what they say. Authorities need to be contacted just to make sure this child is taken care of.

Answer 9

You are required by law to report any suspected case of child abuse. You need to report it to Child Services. We have all heard of sexual abuse that the parents choose to believe didn't happen. That child is helpless. Please,please report this as soon as possible. This person could be abusing that child or another one right now. Children count on us to protect them. They may be able to protect your identity. Call and talk to them. The Lord may have let you hear this so you would help. Help this little girl. God bless you.

Answer 10

You definitely need to mention this to her mother. If she doesn't believe you go to Child Protective Services and enlist their help. Chances are very good that it will happen again and you don't want that hanging over your head do you? Protect this little girl while you still have the chance.