My boyfriend of 7 years is a music artist, we have supported each others dreams for as long as we've been together. He recently recorded this song with a female singer. Now the situation is making me uncomfortable because she has to perfom at his shows and so forth. I've met her and I don't see her as competition, but now he is starting to go to her shows for support or whatever. I trust him and we love each other, he is always reassuring me that I shouldn't worry because it's just work and he loves me. I've gone to his first show and he made me feel comfortable, I am just upset because now she has to be around and he's saying that she's part of the team now, him and this other male artist including her. I told him that I support his dream, but that I don't think it would be cool that now it's like he's sort of helping her with her career and she has to be around all the time.
How do I deal with this? Am I being unreasonable?
2007-01-18 14:31:08 · 13 answers · asked by Cookie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't trust him. You say you do, but you don't. You are being insanly unreasonable. This female artist is a buisness partner, not a romantic one. You are jealous and insecure. I know this is not what you want to hear, sorry.
By him helping HER career, HE is getting ahead in the buinsess. And by getting father along, he will be making more money for you and someday your children. You see her as compition (don't lie..just OWN IT) and you think she is going to get all of his "important" attention. She's getting his money making attnetion and YOU are getting the improtant attention. He loves you more than you can imagine, but by acting like this, by being this jealous bratt because everything he doesn't doesn't directly involve you, you are showing him that you don't really love him...that he is a paycheck and flesh to you...
So stop being like this, and go give your man a big hug and say that you are sorry, that you trust him, you love him, make love TO him and move on...
2007-01-18 14:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Pandora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's part of the music business and it's also part of the entertainment business. If it continues to make you that uncomfortable then I would suggest that you go to what ever your BF is doing so that your mind can be put at ease. my boyfriend has his own entertainment entity which is artist managenent, clothing line, book publishing, so he is gone all the time. but i don't sit around waiting for him to come home nor do i wait for him to get in contact with me. i am too busy myself trying to achieve my own dreams. i work a full time job, work a part time job and go to school part time. maybe you can have some hobbies or activites to keep your mind busy too. just a suggestion.
2007-01-18 14:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound like they are helping eachother. The only way I would be worried or upset is if he was forbidding you to come to the shows. That would mean he is trying to hide something. But sounds like he wants you to be there to support him. Thats admirable. He loves you and wants you to also be a part of this. The best thing that you can do is jusr roll with it. It's not like she will be around forever.
2007-01-18 14:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by littleredd1003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being unreasonable. Are you saying you will only support him and his dreams, if he only works around guys. Hello, he wants to be a music artist, he will be around a lot of females. You need to figure out if you can handle that.
2007-01-18 14:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is part of the music business. I can understand your concerns but you need to trust your guy. Show him that you are confident in yourself and in him. Unfortunately...you are going to have to deal with this other woman because this is part of your man's dream. Hang your head high and be happy that he loves you and that he is doing something that he loves...very rare to have both!!!
2007-01-18 14:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of times we ask questions we already know the answer to, but hope someone else will help make our minds up or agree with what we're feeling. no one can help you with this situation because we don't know what type of person your boyfriend is. you must learn to trust you own inner self. if your comfortable with the situation then it must be o.k., if your just saying you are and you really are not, well then who are you lying to (not me).
2007-01-18 14:45:02 · answer #6 · answered by panda bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
psssh no deal i desire my £10,000 hiya do you feel there honestly is a banker on deal or no deal? or is noel simply speaking at the cellphone to himself? or some thing foolish like that
2016-09-07 22:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That situation would be hard for me to get used to.
Ever seen the movie, "Walk the Line"?
2007-01-18 14:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally understand your feelings, I think any girl could. Here is a thought: know any guys you can set her up with? Maybe you could double date. Not only could get her reaction to being set up, but maybe kill 2 birds with one stone if she starts dating someone steadily.
Good luck!
2007-01-18 14:41:33 · answer #9 · answered by faith 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not really, but if you keep it up he will see you as jealous, and leave you...........if you trust him, then where is the harm in her being around? as long as he has not offered to kiss her head off her shoulders or wanna slap the shheets, then your trust will be enough
2007-01-18 14:46:35 · answer #10 · answered by phishsports 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋