How do I bring up subject of living together/marriage/future?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 4 years now and I was wondering how do I bring up the future (living together, marriage, etc) without freaking him out? We are 22, and arent ready for marriage (I know I'm not, and he's made off-hand remarks about not being ready) but I wouldnt mind living together in the near future (next couple years), and I'm curious as to if he sees a future with me. I just dont want to make him think I'm pressuing him into anything... How do I bring this up without just blurting it out of the blue?

I know I have to bring it up, I want to know HOW to bring it up. And even though we've been together for 4 years... I was away at university for the last 3 years (I'm done now) and we now live about 1 hour from each other (my family and I moved last summer). So while other couples would be ready for marriage now, we arent I dont think, since our relationship was in a way on hold with me being so far away.

Answer 1

If you're not ready for marriage, don't live together-it WILL ruin your relationship.-trust me.

Answer 2

i'd say a three hundred and sixty 5 days. once you've been courting heavily adequate to bypass in at the same time and then stay at the same time for a minimum of a three hundred and sixty 5 days then some talk about marriage isn't out of the question. obviously a wedding ceremony should be as a lot as 3 or 4 years away, yet begining the talk at that aspect is per chance sturdy. sturdy success.

Answer 3

Yes you sure should.... You have been seeing him for 4 years no so i think it is about time to marry him and make it official dont you? Why are you not ready for marriage yet if I may ask?

Answer 4

Sweetie....sex is for marriage only...