I fell 4 another a guy at work,we were both havivg marriage problems and seem 2 connect with each other.Over time we got closer and closer and by then i had left my husband and moved back 2 my parents.In the next few months he left his wife of 23 years and his son of 15 years and we moved in together.His wife and son did nothing other than text him upto 30 times a day telling him they wanted him home and then my family started telling me 2 sort my marriage out.The pressure on us both was 2 much and i decided that i should go home and try and sort it out 4 the sake of the money i had invested in my home and 2 get my family off my back.We both cried for days but knew something had 2 b done.He went back 2 his wife as he couldn`t affford the flat on his own and i went back 2 my husband.I still love him so much and wish i had been stronger 2 stay with him.I now realise that bricks,mortar and money can`t replace true love.How can i get my true soulmate back as he won`t even speak 2 me now!
2007-01-18 14:17:02 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this IS a problem and you've had some very harsh answers from people who maybe dont understand. we all have to make very difficult decisions and maybe the second biggest decision you made was right or wrong. who knows? maybe he's trying to make a go of his marriage and is afraid that if he speaks to you he will fall all over again. i hope it works out for you. good luck x
2007-01-20 00:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by sue brew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't speak to you. His family seems to have given him a second chance. The love they showed when he left won him back. It does not sound like he wants to come back to you.
My heart cries out for you. I know all too well what you are going through. My soulmate has been out of my life for 30 years and the pain is still difficult to deal with.
Some wounds time does not heal. I know it is hard. email if you want to talk. I wish there was more I could do. Invest in your primary relationship na dtry to rebuild it.
2007-01-18 14:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by Bill G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your love for each other was not as strong to withstand the pressures onto you. You both had the opportunity to make your relationship work but both of you blew it. Remember there are others involved in this mess. It's time u think of them.
2007-01-18 14:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try harder with your own marriage rather than wreck another families lives. Don't be selfish. Talk to the man you married & change some things. It most probably will work out. Be happy.
2007-01-18 14:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by ANDREW H 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You blew it with him, both your families were torn apart then you decided you didn't care enough to stick through the tough times.
Either focus on your marriage now or get a divorce and start over on your own
2007-01-18 14:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by gypse76 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe the best thing to do for now is to do nothing and make sure your certain about not wanting what you already have. The grass ain't always greener and you might find that it's a personal thing that your unhappy and the company and suroundings aren't the problem.
2007-01-18 14:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by Tops 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you still love him why did you decide to separate ways when you started having financial problem. isn't love enough to keep you together? if it's a mistake leaving your lover then you are correcting the mistake when you left your husband. good thing that he still give your marriage another chance. let time take its course. if one door closes there's another one that opens for you. see the bright side of life......
2007-01-18 19:50:08 · answer #7 · answered by iris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let that man go and work on your marriage that you are in.... He needs to go back to his wife and child.... You have made a mistake ... You need to make amends and change your life and your marriage for the better. You are doing what is right.
2007-01-18 14:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are both home wreckers and suit each other admirably. I just pity your respective family's in all of this, especially the son...i hope that you are ashamed of yourselves, and that you both catch cancer , preferably at the same time.....you can do everyone a favour then can't you.
2007-01-18 19:27:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a tart and you deserve to feel shame. He is an idiot who wants the world at his feet. He too deserves the misery. There is no quick fix - neither of you are to be trusted.
2007-01-18 20:22:18 · answer #10 · answered by tickTickTICK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋