I'm 19 and I've been with my bf for about 10 mos now. We are not necessarily trying to get pregnant, but we aren't trying to stop it either. We've been having sex for about 6 mos without protection, and still no pregnancy. I don't want to do anything to MAKE it happen, I'm just now starting to get worried that maybe I can't get pregnant at all...and I really don't want that! So if anyone knows anything....please help me ease my mind! :0) Thanks!
2007-01-18 14:14:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Goodness gracious sweetie you haven't been with that guy that long to know if he would or wouldn't be there for you if you did happen to get pregnant. I know a ton of females fear that they are unable to have children, but to be honest don't test to see if that is true right now wait a little bit get to know the guy you are with before you get pregnant. Just my opinion best of luck to you hun
2007-01-18 14:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first concern is that you should make sure that your boyfriend has been tested for STD's. Besides that I want to tell you that I identify with your fear. I had my fair share of unprotected sex, and was thankful then that I did not get pregnant. Now, 5 years later, I am married, and we want to start trying soon, and looking back I am worried about why I never got pregnant.
The best advice I have gotten from voicing those fears is to not worry. If you're not paying attention to when you are having sex you may not be having it during the the 5 days you are most fertile. (I think it is five days.)
5 days out of 30, if you are not trying, would make it harder for an "accident". It happens to some people, but because it hasn't happened to you doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you.
Long answer to say, don't worry about it. If you start trying and planning and it doesn't happen then go see a doctor.
Good luck:)
2007-01-18 22:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by bostonnik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be pregnant don't have unprotected sex. It is actually quite difficult to get pregnant as there are only 24 hours when the egg is viable for fertilization. I spent many years taking the pill wondering if I really need to or if I would eventually find out that I had wasted all that money. Guess what, I didn't and because I used the pill I had a great life being young, going out, traveling and lots of other FUN that I couldn't have had with a kid. I am now 36 with a 3 year old and it is a lot of hard work and I am VERY glad that it didn't happen to me at 19.
PS- I don't even know where the guy that I dated at 19 is these days and I am married, happily to a great guy that I met when I was 30.
2007-01-18 22:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by mom-knows-best 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i did the same thing for a while before we got married, for about a year, and then i was on the pill for a year. then we got married and i stopped the pill right away, and i didn't get pregnant for another 2 years. so that's 3 years of unprotected sex, and no pregnancy! i was really worried too. i should have talked to my doctor, but we were never really in a hurry to have a baby, we figured it would happen when it was meant to. turns out it did, and now we are expecting #2 after trying for only about 2 months! just relax about it, and if you are worried just talk to your OB next time you go in. chances are you're perfectly normal!
by the way, for everyone who says that you are too young or havent known your boyfriend for long enough, my husband andi started having unprotected sex a week after we met, when i was 18 and he was 19. we were each other's firsts, as well. we got married a year later, and now we are working on our fifth anniversary - happy as ever. while it may be true that most relationships at 19 or so don't work out, no one here has any idea of your situation or relationship, and it has nothing to do with your question!
2007-01-18 22:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca O 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
a lot has to happen just right to get pregnant. You probably, just out of coincidence, have not had sex on or near your fertile days. You're young, and like you said, not really trying. Don't worry so much right now. But I do suggest you use some sort of birth control if you aren't trying. 10 months may seem like a long time, but it's not really that long.
2007-01-18 22:37:57 · answer #5 · answered by kittynala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people here don't understand your question.Some people are just ready at 19!
To get to your real question:There's probably nothing wrong with you.Maybe you can get a ovulation predictor lit and determine when your most fertile days are.As for trying,some people try for long periods without getting pregnant,and once they don't actually think about it,it happens.If you have a real concern and want some expert advice,go see a doctor.He/she will set you mind at ease.
Good luck and all of the best.
PS:Everyone can rate me bad,i don't care!
2007-01-19 05:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it would be FAR better for you to go to an OB-GYN doctor for a complete checkup and ask him/her if there is any problem present that could keep you from becoming pregnant. Right now you are just plain LUCKY you are not Pregnant. Please do not keep taking the chance to bring a child into the world until you are older, married and in every way ready to provide the best possible circumstances for the child. Many women do not get pregnat for a year or more when trying. Your risky behavior now could bring a child into the world when you are not ready to provide for it.
2007-01-18 22:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was 19 and was you. . . now I'm 24 and been trying trying trying and still can't!!!! (all that time with my husband - not random people!)
We had one miscarriage. So now we know we can get pregnant. We just have to get our timing right. See most of it is timing. You may want to use protection if you don't want to get pregnant!!!
As for me . . . I'm still trying my little heart out~!
2007-01-18 23:58:01 · answer #8 · answered by luckylucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and i had sex for two years with protection and without pregnancy sometimes it just takes time. Now im 12 weeks pregnant :)
2007-01-18 22:22:52 · answer #9 · answered by J&A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was off BC for a year with out getting pregnant, then when we started trying, it took 3 months. When you want start trying use a ovulation predictor kit. It worked for me. If you have problems after that, I would see a doctor.
2007-01-18 22:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by I love sushi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋