Well, basically.. I couldn't go someplace I wanted to go with my friends because my father started acting abusive towards me and he made me upset I was in no condition to go anywhere or do anything emotionally, and mentally. (Don't worry, I'm now talking to him less and less and trying to get him out of my life)
Now my one friend won't even talk to me. She's giving me the silent treatment because my plans got changed, and I can't be around her 24/7 now. (She craves attention all the time)
Whats the best thing I can do in this situation? Ignore the fact she's ignoring me? Bring it up and cause drama? or something else... ?
2007-01-18 14:02:37 · 29 answers · asked by Rae-Rae Nikkoles <3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
*edit: this has happened before.
2007-01-18 14:06:35 · update #1
edit edit: *this isn't the first time this happened, its the second time. She basically called me up awhile ago saying that my family can go to hell and i can stop acting like a baby.
2007-01-18 14:07:53 · update #2
***edit edit: yes, she knows what happened, and no i'm not a minor anymore.
2007-01-18 14:13:08 · update #3
First a "friend" like that realy isn't a friend to you. With that said, treat them as you would any other casual acquaintance - leave her alone and move on if she can't respect you for you. More important to me, however, is your abusive parent. Are you underage? If so, where is your mother? Other relatives? It's time to love yourself more than anyone else. You learn that, than what she does won't matter at all.
2007-01-18 14:07:12 · answer #1 · answered by Al P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rae Rae, sweetie: You have way too much on your plate to worry about this girl. More important--are you getting help for the abuse and have you gotten completely away from your Dad? Does your "friend" know about why you couldn't follow through with your plans--not that it should matter? A true friend would just accept that something came up that you are not ready to talk about. Since she's not speaking to you, it would be hard to talk to her about what a schmuck she's being, so ignoring her should be easy. If you really want to continue to be friends with someone so undeserving, you could explain what happened to her, you could tell her that you're sorry for not being able to make it the other night but that something serious happened concerning your Dad. She should then apologize and ask if you're OK and is there anything that she could do to help. If she doesn't express any concern or apologize, etc. she is not a friend. She's a selfish prima dona who wants to surround herself with minions. (This you already know!!) This will make it even easier to move past her, since you seem to be hesitating.
2007-01-18 14:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by Loki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to decide if you still want her as a friend. If you determine that you are ready to move on, then just forget it and don't bother calling or trying to contact her. Hang out with friends who you enjoy and dont give you so much drama.
If you determine you want her as a friend. you probably should just call her and apologize for letting her down (of course we know you had a good reason) but at this point she just wants you to aknowledge that she was disappointed. She will probably feel happy and you will make up and be friends again.
"I am sorry" is a magic sentence. It is amazing how much healing those words can do.
Sometimes with friends you just have to move on and say your sorry even if you really may not feel like you did anything wrong. But if you want to keep the friend sometimes it is worth it.
She may be feeling like you just did not want to be with her and it made her feel bad. It can happen.
the choice is up to you.
2007-01-18 14:11:20 · answer #3 · answered by San Diego 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go for now. She will either come around or she won't. If she does, explain to her about your father and let her know that she is not the only one with needs. You didn't change plans to hurt her, but because you were hurting and you needed a friend while going through all this. Rather than you worrying about whether your friend will talk to you and what to do about it, you should have had her support.
2007-01-18 14:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by kiera70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If U explained to he why you couldnt be there and she is still giving you the cold shoulder she is not your friend. I just had something like this happen to me. My friend said she was waiting for me to call her so that she could come over and something happened to where I wasnt able to call her and it got too late, now she is treating me like I did something wrong, even after I explained to her, I am done with it now because if she was ever my friend she wouldnt be acting this way towards me. Your friend is just as selfish as mine. I really pray that you work whatever it is going on with you and your father out, if he is being abusive towards you, you need to get someone to help you. Take care and good luck!
2007-01-18 14:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you wish to continue on good terms with your friend maybe you should talk about it? Did you explain to her what caused you to be unable to go out? I am sure if she was a real friend she wouldn't be ignoring you anymore. You should try to talk it out if you want to maintain your friendship with her. If she is just someone you would really rather not be friends with anymore because her poor behavior than just let things the way they are. I am sure she would understand if given the situation.
2007-01-18 14:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by monkeydoodie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is terrible what she is doing. Does she know what is happening at home. If she does then she is a selfish loser who needs attention or nothing. Bail her as a friend if she is like this because no one should have a friend like that. Unless it is like her time of month...ya know. But bring it up and cause drama because the rest of your friends should support you in this.
2007-01-18 14:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by Heyhey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend Victoria is absolutely right, they drain your energy & do make you feel low & she's not worth all that so be straight to the point that you no longer concider her as a friend! is victoria going on the trip? you can either see if someone else will swap rooms with you or not go i'm afraid, but its not the end of the world & other plans/trips will come up so dont worry about it!!
2016-05-24 05:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who need enemies when you have friends like that?
Move on,cause she has. And a really good friend would have been there for you through the troubles you were going through. Why would you want to be bothered by someone that don't really care what happens to you anyways? I say you move on and be STRONG! Stand your ground!!! Good Luck!
2007-01-18 14:07:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are upset that you are getting the silent treatment from your friend, but you in turn are doing the same thing to your father?
2007-01-18 14:06:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋