ok, those of us that have children and more so teenagers may be able to help here. i am trying to teach my 13 yr old daughter to keep her room tidy ( this is an on going sage and being my 3rd child and last please let me succeed with just one lol!) anyway, each week she is responsible to iron her own clothes. she gets paid $10 a week regardless if she has heaps of ironing or just a few (the theory was if she didnt throw clean clothes on the floor which in turn gets put out to be washed she would have less to iron) now i dont expect her to iron to the same standard as me but i do expect the clothes to not look like she slept in them. But when i go to put other things away in her room i see that her clothes are folded instead of hung up and they are wrinkled again. do i ignore it or should i point it out?
part of me says that as long as i dont have to do her ironing keep quiet. but then i feel like i am not teaching her the right way. what do you think?
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2007-01-18 14:00:46 · 12 answers · asked by elly 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well there's no point in ironing if you're just going to fold it, so try pointing out that she's doing extra work, but if you tell her she's doing something wrong, or that hhanging them up is right she'll probably get standoffish and decide you're being too hard on her. Tell her she should hang them but phrase it in a "just making your life easier" sort of way.
2007-01-18 14:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by ren_faery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oftentimes I just throw the wrinkled clothing in the dryer. It saves me time and the hassle of pulling out the iron. I think keeping the room clean for $10 is reasonable, but I don't see why ironing clothes is a must.
2007-01-18 14:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by M N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think that the whole tidyness thing is your pet peev and your issue. Why should she have to iron her clothes just because you prefer it that way. Kids need to be able to express themselves. This is one small way that she can 'do her own thing" so to speak. Besides, after it does become a mess and she cant find stuff and she gets frustrated you can say "its not my problem" and she will learn to become more organized. Even if she has a messy room throughout her teens, if shes used to living in a clean house...once she gets out on her own, she will be a clean person. Im a neat freak now, but when I lived at home i was a slob.
2007-01-18 14:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by Lolly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll learn some day.
My older sister was as bad as I am when she was thirteen. She would leave things everywhere, never pick up, throw things on the ground.
Now she's nineteen, and she always keeps her room clean.
I say, just let her be a kid while she still can. I think paying her is pretty cheesy.
Sometimes part of growing up is waking up and realizing, "hey, these clothes are everywhere, I can't find anything, I look disgusting. I should clean." If you push her to the limit, she'll just want to go in the other direction.
2007-01-19 09:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let her be. If she wants to wear her clothes wrinkled, let her. Also tell her if she doesn't tidy her room, close the door so you won't have to look at it. If someone makes fun of her for having wrinkled clothing, she will take the hint and iron better. It's kind of like when you teach your child to make their bed. You don't go behind them and remake it. It only tells them that you will fix it all for them. At 13 years of age, your daughter is old enough to want to look good so maybe her ironing isn't really as bad as you think it is.
2007-01-18 14:10:34 · answer #5 · answered by prarierosebud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that your girl is putting away her clothes regardless at 13. Depite whether they look like she slept in them or not, they are CLEAN and if they are folded, they are not entirely wrinkled! I would be really happy that they were washed at all at that age.
2007-01-18 14:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are making a molehill into a mountain.So long as she is clean so what if she folds her clothes?Pick your battles she could be so much worse .At her age I was getting drunk and smoking all kinds of stuff and dissapearing with boys and my parents were religous.Your going to push her away with this pettiness.
2007-01-18 15:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if she is folding them and putting away then she is doing a good job. She is the one that has to wear them and if she doesn't mind a few wrinkles who cares. I don't iron myself, on a rare occasion I do and I certaintly don't expect my kids to either.
Just be happy she is folding them and putting them away.
2007-01-18 14:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by schell_75 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ok, just dont pay her every week. then eventually she will need money and come to you and then you give her a list of chores needed to be done. she will learn from that, and once she doesnt have clean and tidy clothes to wear, she will do the work. just put up with it for now and dont cave in!
2007-01-18 14:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by Roshni 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dunno- I see a lot of kids wearing clothes that look like they were slept in.
On the one hand, yes, it is important for her to learn to pick up after herself...
On the other, at least the clothes are folded and not in a heap on the floor.
2007-01-18 14:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋