Ok I have a wonderful boyfreind. He is everything I ever wanted in a man. He has a great personality and is very good looking he treats me like a princess and always spends time with me when he can. He gets me to laugh and when I am sad he can turn my frown into a smile just like that. He takes my breath away I totally love him. Heres the thing I have a great personality the thing is I don't feel good enough for him on the outside I don't feel I am buetiful enough for him in other words. He tells me I am buitiful but thing is at my school all the guys say I am butt a$$ ugly and i totally hurts me on the inside. Can someone please tell me how I can gain confidence in my self for my honey? He tells me im buetiful the thing is well I don't feel so pretty. Any advise will be appeciated PS i always think he will leave me for another wemon
2007-01-18 13:37:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Listen, beauty is on the inside not the outside. As soon as you realise that you will be fine. As for the butt jokes, these people know that it bothers you. So if you turn around and say are you jealous and laugh it off, they will realise they can't get to you anymore and the comments will stop. Walk with your chin up and a smile on your face. We are all beautiful on the inside as well as the out. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Take care Heather
2007-01-25 13:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The other boys say mean things not because you are ugly, but because they know you are vulnerable in that area, and they do it to make themselves feel powerful by making you feel powerless. Beauty is a very subjective thing. Since your boyfriend spends time with you, treats you well, and says he thinks you are beautiful, he is telling the truth in his words and his actions.
Don't be brainwashed by media images of beauty. They are created images, illusions, created by airbrushing, expensive makeup artists, skillful photographers, digital enhancing, etc. Corporations that have products to sell (cosmetics, clothing, perfume, etc.) exploit people's insecurity and fear of not being good enough. They want you to feel insecure to manipulate you into buying their product to "fix" the problem that they have created in your mind.
Though no relationship is 100% guaranteed and safe, it sounds as though yours is a good one. Only immature and selfish guys leave a girl or woman because of looks. Many really beautiful woman still have cheating husbands. Reese Witherspoon, who is smart and gorgeous, is divorcing her husband because he was having an affair.
I suggest that you take that anxious energy and self-hurting attention, and use it to be a caring and thoughtful girlfriend to him. There will always be someone less physically attractive than you and someone more attractive. Comparison is a trap.
Be the best you that you can be, and you will always find people who appreciate and love you. Don't be an imitation of anyone else. Your boyfriend chose YOU.
2007-01-26 01:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by curious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 If he says your beautiful then why are you worried about not being good enough for him??? You beautiful to him so thats all that matters
#2 Screw what those dumb@ss idiots say at school. How dare they tell you that your ugly?? They are shallow. They dont know a damn thing about you and the next time they tell you that you tell them to F off. Dont let those idiots hurt your feelings!
#3 You have to have confidence in yourself! Your boyfriend will not leave you for another woman. You need to be secure with yourself in order to be secure in your relationship. He sounds like a really great guy and he treats you right.
#4 Tell him how you feel! You will feel so much better when you tell him the way your feeling.
If you need to talk just IM me.
2007-01-18 21:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I've felt like that with my boyfriend as well. You have to think of it this way...If this great, good looking guy is head over heals for you, then it's because you have alot going for yourself. Pay no attention the the jerks at your school. Beauty is not the size of your brest and body(which are the concerns for a lot of guys) or the style of your clothes. It's you and the way you carry yourself. What you need to do is look at yourself in the mirror everyday and find good qualities in yourslef. Things that you like about yourself. Write them down even, so when you feel down you can read them and realize that you are a great person and that you do deserve the great guy that God has placed in your life.
2007-01-18 21:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey i am the same way with my man, i always think that he will leave me for some hot looking super model, that has a great personality and brilliant IQ. But i think what we have to learn to do is think that he chose us, that he picked us out of a crowd where there were much hot looking girls.
He must think that you are everything to him, cause if he didn't then he would have never of asked you to be with him.
You have to hold your head up high and say that i am beautiful, that you have then man of your dreams and that no one else can have him.
You must always remember that you can always improve yourself, like losing weight, getting a facial, things like that and i know that your man will behind you 110% all the way.
I hoped that i have helped and i hope that you start appreciating yourself more.
2007-01-18 21:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by princess_kimnus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No no Hun that is a no no.
Don't you feel like that think positive about yourself. Because no one else but you can do that. See as long as the guy you love tells you what you want to hear F*CK everyone else... He is telling you that you are beautiful for a reason maybe because he sees in you something those other guys don't. Besides you are hearing it from the only guy you care about. If it makes you feel better though get a makeover change your hair style etc...
2007-01-26 20:53:22 · answer #6 · answered by iris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl the only one that matters is what you an your boyfriend have together,you must be great to him if you are so happy together.His friends are not real ones or they would not say things that would hurt someone he cares for.I would not need friends like that.If you care about him an he cares about you,just tell his friends to see ya, hope i was of some help Lion.
2007-01-26 10:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by lion j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he always encouraging you, it means he really love you, no matter who you are, its on the inside love not the outside physical looks...Stop thinking negative way, it will ruins your relationship to a guy who really loves you.
Dont look backwards what people say about you before..its just a passed..the person who told you that you are ugly, she has a lower confidence on herself and lower self esteem.
Just enjoy the present right now, and eventually it will change your attitudes. stop thinking negative ways...Goodluck!!!
2007-01-25 01:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by believeme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let those fools get to you by calling you names or anythingg. I've been there myself and belive me if you let them by showing that what they are saying is true, then they will continue. Don't let anyone put you down. As for the guy you are seeing if you keep saying that you are not beautiful he will soon live you. Have faith in yourself be strong. If he is too good to be true then fine, but accept him for who and how he treats you.
2007-01-25 20:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by Patricia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is it about your appearance that you feel is inferior? and -why do you want to gain confidence for him? do it for yourself. because, by saying that you want to gain confidence for him, you have already lost. its contradictory.you must want it for you, and you alone. then ,he will notice it as well.some of the most attractive people who have ever lived were not especially appealing in the looks department.those guys at school- i bet most of them would snag lightening with their ugliness. enjoy your guy, and believe him when he tells you that you are beautiful. i wasnt always a perfect match with guys . sometimes they looked better than me, and sometimes they thought that i was out of their league.this shows that beauty comes in different ways. enjoy your life ,and dont worry
2007-01-18 21:55:59 · answer #10 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋