2007-01-18 13:31:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No.
These days couples should talk about it before marriage.
Our current economy is absolutely crazy and does not take parenting into consideration at all.
Another thanks a lot women's lib is that men may be afraid to mention they wish wife would stay home, and wife too, as well she certainly may be career driven from growing up believing she must too be a bread winner.
End story, total dissatisfaction all around.
There is support for women staying home to help her not feel like a total failure(for mothering her children!) and no longer should a woman feel uncomfortable going back to training as the kids become more manageable.
Further a woman may find an at home occupation. Though kids bedazzle the mind and she oughtn't be pressured. This I assure is temporary. Mom will start to feel normal again when the only child is 7 or at some point after the youngest is 4-5-6.
With careful budgeting and some support it is still possible to wade through the channels and live comfortably.
It should never even be thought that 'He's the one bringing in the money'. The marriage is bringing in the money.
2007-01-18 16:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not old fashioned. The new thing is that it's not the ONLY way things can be any more. Used to, that's how it HAD to be. Now couples have other options. The old ways still work for some couples, but if the guy wants to stay at home and raise the kids, and the woman wants to work, and you're both happy with that, go ahead. Good luck.
2007-01-18 13:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by David W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your spouse have to decide on your arrangements together. If there is no financial need for both of you to work, why not? Home care , and child rearing is a full time job in of itself. It's not a slackers career at all. And just like any other job, the pride and dedication you put into it will reveal your talent and success at it. Old fashioned? Well...it's been done. Perfectly legitimate? Absolutely. The trick is to understand that the division of labor between you two is not about financial gain, it's about whats the best path for both of you to achieve your life goals. Neither of you should ever point a finger at the other and claim their not pulling their weight. A homemaker pulls their weight and more. It's just not in a quantifiable way like a job with a paycheck does.
2007-01-18 13:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not "old fashioned" some families are still like that and it is great when that is the way EVERYONE in the family wants it to be. But first BEFORE the marriage the man and woman need to disucss how the family is going to be run and whether both partners will be working outside the home or not.
2007-01-18 13:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship works differently. You both need to talk about the arrangement on more than one occasion, and come to a mutual agreement. You should definitely be sure that your husband can afford to take care of the family if the two of you decided that you would be a SAHM. On the other hand, many women love to work and would never dream of giving up their jobs/careers!
2007-01-18 13:43:16 · answer #5 · answered by aquarius 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...but it depends on how much money it takes to live on, where they are and how much money the 'man' makes...it takes a LOT Of money to rear children. It's not old fashioned, it's just not realistic these days of $500,000 houses, $30,000 cars, food, clothes, insurance for cars, houses, medical, life...
When I was young, gas was .19 cents a gallon. (not $3.00), a loaf of bread was .50 cents (not $2.00), houses went for less than $10,000 (not hundreds of thousands) and you could buy a brand new Dodge for $2600. ( not $36,000)
So my Mom could stay at home....(if she wanted and she didn't, she worked off and on when I was growning up, so the old fashioned 'man' of the house didn't really exsist, except in some peoples minds...)
2007-01-18 13:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think so, but many men do. You really have to be in agreement on this with your mate. You will need money too, and will not want to always have to ask your spouse for $5 for sanitary napkins or something like that. It poses great benefits for your children, and even the spouse, but you both need to be in agreement. Otherwise, the working spouse will only end up resenting you in the end.
2007-01-18 13:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by MaknMeCrzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that this should be an individual choice, rather than a societal choice.
Working women shouldn't be penalized because they choose to work, and homemakers shouldn't be penalized because they choose to stay home.
It is a matter of each doing their own thing, and the only opinion that should matter should be the husband's (as long as he's not a control freak).
2007-01-18 13:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by flyhasitall 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be old fashion but kids love having their Moms home.
2007-01-18 13:52:11 · answer #9 · answered by mjohnson1422 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no I'm only 16 and i stay at home taking care of my son and also doing home school while my husband work
2007-01-18 13:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by lisa_08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋