Married for two and half years and before Christmas we were planning a family. Close friends gave me some shocking news about my wife a week ago as she has been having an affair for quite some time with her distant cousin who is now staying with us. The affair continued in our house while I work away. Last night I received confirmation all of the news from our close friends was true and have now decided to divorce my wife. It has come so suddenly from total happines and love in our marriage to such tragic. It apears my wife have been living double standards she did tell me about a year ago she had a two year affair before we married and accepted as it happened before our marriage but I was never comfortable about it. She still loves me but it is obvious her morals are quite different and have no respect for a marriage and I could never trust her again. Is there someone who has experienced simmilar siruations? My feelings are pretty heart broken at moment.
2007-01-18 13:10:17 · 12 answers · asked by maleinaus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
(((hugs))) I'm so sorry to hear that somebody you love did this to you. You deserve better and I sense you realize this. I wish you peace and happiness :-)
Read Dr. Phils advice;
"Healing A Broken Heart"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/18
"Life After Divorce"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/213
2007-01-18 15:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by me 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He has a legal right to see the child, and he can fight for that in court. The name thing? That's easy. Your wife can give the child any last name she wants, even though he may be the biological father. And especially since it's already on the birth certificate, I wouldn't worry about it. There's nothing the father can do to change this, no matter how much he hates it. And while he's entitled to visitation rights, your wife is also entitled to child support. If he pursues anything in court, make sure she pursues child support. In fact, I'd have her go down immediately and file for it, as long as the DNA test is proven (and you have a copy of it). Who knows? This guy might just go away. Some guys are like that; they fight for the sake of fighting and don't even care about the child. Only time will tell. Good luck in this... it's a tough situation and I commend you for raising the child as your own.
2016-05-24 05:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation is very hard. But keep in mind that you're doing the right thing. You don't deserve this and what she's doing is just disgusting anyway. Hang in there, you'll be fine. I'm glad you never had a chance to start that family with her and now you will have an opportunity to make it happen with someone who will truly love you.
2007-01-18 13:20:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother was the same way...she was married to 4 men and couldn't be faithful to any of them....she would even cheat on the men she was cheating on her husband with! People like her think sex is love. she ruined a lot of peoples lives with her ongoing escapades and I fear she will never grow up and learn what love and marriage are really about.
2007-01-18 13:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend I feel your pain, my wife cheated on me after 18 years of marriage, and left me with 4 kids, I could nt eat, sleep.....until one day Jesus touched my heart, and I gave my heart to Him, this affair happen almost 3 years ago, God has healed my broken heart, I forgive my ex, and I ask God to bless her....God is love....take care
2007-01-18 13:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by Bert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart---move on. She didn't deserve you. Obviously she didn't respect you. To have a relationship in your home that you to for your comfort-UGH!! Divorce her and have no more dealings with her. It's best to let her do what she does best--and that is cheat. She will sooon reap what she has sewn. Good Luck and Prayers are with you
2007-01-18 13:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by shonnie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but my opinion regarding her cheating prior to marriage should have been a RED FLAG for you. Why would you think she would change after marriage? This is absolutely not so.
Hopefully there are no children involved.
2007-01-18 13:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONEY! walk away... she doesnt love you., i mean im sure she does in one way or another, but not like two people married should... ive dealt with infidelity myself and rock bottom is where you walk out, but i promise you it slowly improves.IF YOU STAY YOU ARE ENABLING HER TO CONTINUE THIS LIFESTYLE AND YOU WILL BE AS GUILTY AS SHE IS WHEN SHE DOES IT AGAIN.. please leave her and try and find your soulmate... shes out there, but youll waste a lifetime of love with this woman... so get rid of this baggage and get on with your life
2007-01-18 13:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away from her and dont ever look back again. this woman has not only no love for u, she also dont have respect and she is not worth ur attention, not worth ur sadness at all.. trust me..better to be alone than be with a snake like her.
2007-01-18 13:50:09 · answer #9 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens to the best of us, I know. It is better this way when you consider how bad it would feel if you found out the child you were planning to raise was someone elses. It happened to a friend of mine. Hold your head up...you aren't the one who is mucked up, she is.
2007-01-18 13:28:15 · answer #10 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋