What would you do if your spouse cheated on you?

Question

Me, personally, I'd put him out the house naked because I'd do a Bernadine from Waiting to Exhale (The Clothes I bought him). I wouldn't even go after her because I find it stupid to fight over any humans affections.

Answer 1

I would divorce him.
Once a cheat, always a cheat.
PERIOD!

Answer 2

My 1st husband cheated all the time. He would swear to me that he wouldn't do it again, begging me not to divorce him. This happened for 13 years. I believe marriage is forever, I believed that maybe if I were a better wife, etc that I could fix my marriage. After several (22) affairs that I know of, I just couldn't take it anymore. But I thought the same thing as everyone else, I would divorce him, leave him etc, however when it happens to you it's different.

I believed it was me, i lost my self esteem, etc. I tried harder, did everything to try to please him but it just kept happening.

I do believe that people can change and people make mistakes!

However I'm remarried and I have a great husband now and married 11 years. I was unsure of a long time, believing that everyone cheats. But life is good now!

I think life experiences makes a better person. I'm a stronger person now I really can't say what I would do if it happened again.

Answer 3

I used to say the same thing. Till I got cheated on.
It's really easy to say all those things till it actually happens and it's reality in your face. My husband cheated on me with my best friend while I was 8 1/2 months pregnant with our third daughter.
I had feelings about it and I would always ask him and he would always assure me that I was seeing things! What a joke!
Someone else said it depends on where you are in your relationship and I agree with that. Had I not had 2 other children with this man and 2 weeks from having another baby with him, hell ya I would have left him in a heartbeat!
I had 3 other souls to take into consideration, and a strong desire in me to give my children the kind of life I didn't have. Which led me to sticking it out, yes it's hard, yes I think about it everyday. This sucks to say but it has actually HELPED our relationship and made us so much different and stronger then we were back then. We have another baby now to, finally got my son, was it worth it staying? Yes I can give you 4 good reasons!
I guess it just depends on who you are and your situation.

Answer 4

I always said I would cut his balls off...but now that I have so many years invested and a family too its not that easy. If he just cheated 1 time and it was with a stranger, maybe I could forgive if I knew WHY he did it. I mean we have had some rough periods in our relationship where we weren't having sex and not very happy with each other..my husband and i have a very strange relationship I guess..either its GREAT or its AWFUL and ot so much in between. So if it was during one of our rough periods and I knew that he met a woman someplace and he was just weak for the moment, I think I could forgive that..it would take time and he would have to prove he was not still cheating but I could do it.

But if he cheated with like my best friend and it was the 2 of them lying to me or it was an long term affair then I would NOT forgive that and I think I WOULD cut his balls off.

Answer 5

It kind of depends on where you are in your life.
When my husband cheated on me, I took him back as I did believe that it was more physical than it was emotional....and I had two small children at home, new house etc.
BAD MISTAKE
He did it again.
They never change
I put him out and it was and is hard
I dont miss him but the life that we built (material) still has not been replaced.
But if I would have put him out the first time, I would be that much closer.
Cheating is just like a beating in terms of what the response SHOULD BE

Answer 6

Most of these answers are very vengeful in nature. I don't think that is good way to go. I am a divorced man. It was my ex-wife that cheated on me. Personally we discussed why it happened. I believe that we were both at fault at how she got to the point of indiscretion. Still it was her decision. Her willingness to suffer the consequences of that decision. I was willing to forgive her for it but she decided to stay with her ex boyfriend. I was very angry but I have learned from my life that forgiveness is as much for the offended as it is for the offender. The divorce was a peaceful one in which we both received what we wanted materially.

Answer 7

Each person is responsible for the outcome of there relationship

It does take 2 people to make it work. That being said.....

is it important to you to give your relationship every opportunity to succeed or do you run at the first sign of trouble. when you leave a relationship your side of the ledger has to be clean.

if your partner has issues do you turn your back and walk away or do you get help for them and support them.

if your partner does not take it seriously and work on changing then you have a case but to walk away without tryin to save your relationship is your problem

Answer 8

This is the only reason for DiVoRcE in the BIBLE. I would definitely have along talk with a divorce lawyer and my spouse would be there with her clothing ON. There would be no second chance.

My wife and I are happily married and have been for 31 years. She is truly a GOD-SEND for me. I have been so fortunate to have her. I hope that your spouse has not done this to you...
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Answer 9

It would be hard to seperate myself from the emotion of it. I couldn't do it. I would fight with him, I'd be hurt. I would be angry. I would feel vengeful for a while. I would probably never get over it, bad bad bad. That's why spouses shouldn't cheat. The other person is too vulnerable to them. I love my husband so much and I've made myself be so vulnerable to him. I trust him so much that I'd be so shaken.

Answer 10

Everyones expectation of a relationship is different. There are some people who feel if their spouse looks at another man/woman they are cheating. While others say it is only cheating if "I don't know about it."

I guess it depends on the relationship and the people involved.

Answer 11

If she cheated on me.... I would take all her belongings and take them to a pawn shop. what ever I dont get money for I would simply donate to good will or salvation army. Kick her *** to the curb with only one possesion I would have of her. a picture or two of her with the other guy. HAVE A NICE DAY!