I have a coworker that just got the final approval to adopt a baby. The baby (a girl) is 14 months old and will be here from Guatamala in a few weeks. We want to have a baby shower for her (she doesn't have any other kids). Any sugestions on what to call the event or things that we can do during the party since this isn't a "normal" baby shower?
2007-01-18 12:31:20 · 19 answers · asked by Christina 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
By "normal" I meant that the baby is not a newborn and that Mom isn't pregnant.
2007-01-18 12:49:34 · update #1
We recently adopted a child from Guatemala and I would recommend going ahead and calling the event a Baby Shower. That is, in fact, what it is! The last thing you want to do is make the mother feel like adopting is second best to being pregnant.
We had this included in the invitation, "Keep in mind that (insert baby's name) is 14 months old and is currently wearing (insert baby's clothes size). As a suggestion, many adopting parents are under huge financial stress because of adoption expenses so creative ways to give money are helpful.
We played the "What did baby eat?" game. The one where you put baby food in diaper and everyone guesses what the baby ate. You can play most baby shower games, just not the ones where you guess the baby's birthday, weight, etc.
2007-01-18 12:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by Bucktastic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can still call it a baby shower.
As for activities -- why not do a version of pin the tail on the donkey ... pin a flag on Guatamala Get a map and outline the country on it. Make little pink flags and see who can get closest to the country. This will help everyone to see just where the little girl is coming from.
You might try to find some food from that country to serve --maybe a dessert.
2007-01-18 12:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can throw a normal baby shower for EVERY new mom, including an adopting mom. Just be sure that the guests are all aware of the baby's age so that they will shower the new mom with age approriate clothes/toys/etc. BTW, Hallmark stores actually sell baby memory books that can be used for adoptive parents, so this can be a good gift for the shower :)
2007-01-18 12:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by Erika 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family had one for us, when we adopted our baby....
They waited until the baby was born, however......since anything can go wrong with adoption......
I suggest you all do the same thing, and arrange a last-minute event as soon as baby is home with mom.
It IS a baby shower in every way...there is no need to differentiate anything. Adoptive parents are very sensitive about feeling "different" from other parents.....just make it a regular baby shower, but since it is "after the fact", you don't even need to deal with the "pregnancy" aspects of it.
Namaste,
--Tom
2007-01-18 12:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means, still call it a baby shower - on the invites just include something about the fact that your friend is welcoming a 14 month old girl into her family. And please - avoid all the weird games and stuff that typically goes on during a "normal" baby shower!
2007-01-18 12:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by Pinhead 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It IS a normal baby shower. Just because the baby isn't biological doesn't mean the party, gifts, games, or guests should be any different! Honestly, I think it would be incrdibly insultingif you called it anything else besides a baby shower - the baby's a baby, and you're going to shower her with gifts, right?
2007-01-18 12:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by Emily O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because the child was not conceived by her does not mean she would not love to have a baby shower! The people you invite will know of the circumstances - just add a line such as "Baby shower to welcome (baby's name) home". Some babies grow under our hearts , some in our hearts. The mom to be is still a mom to be. Congrats. Now just play all the silly games and have a great time!
2007-01-18 12:37:13 · answer #7 · answered by QueenBee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can still call it a baby shower and do what you would do for any shower. But since the baby is 14mos. I would suggest adding that to the invitation to avoid getting newborn gifts.
2007-01-20 14:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call it a welcoming shower. The girl is still a baby though.
2007-01-18 12:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by greenfrogs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 09:13:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋