I need help..?

Question

I really need some help.
It’s the hard for me to admit that i need help.
But its time.
My life is becoming unbearable.
I’m losing all my friends and most of all my twin
I’m hurting people around me and it took my this long to notice it.
I have a lot of mood swings and I don’t know how to describe it but its like something triggers in my brain and I find myself yelling at people and its not like I mean too. It just happens. Everyone gets so mad but its not like I don’t feel bad after it happens.
I don’t ever tell anyone anything that im feeling.
I don’t like sharing my opinions or being the center of attention.
I like to be alone.
I don’t like loud people
Mostly because of my social anxiety.
I really don’t understand why people don’t understand anxiety.
They think I can just "get over it"
But its not that easy…
I hate going outside.
I don’t like when people look at me or talk to me.
I have panic attacks
When anyone try to talk to me my heart is beating rapidly
thinkin

about going to a public place make me very nervos
my hands sweat

I’ve never got any medications and I think that would help me.
I don’t want to be scared to talk to people
Or scared to do anything.
I’m most scared of being socially embarrassed.
Im severly depressed every day.
But I can deal with that.
I also have a lot of thought racing through my head
I cant figure out if some things are real or I just imagined it.
Sometimes I will see something that isn’t really there.
I have to have everything perfect or I cant sleep.
Im also a virgin probably because i think everyone has an STD.
I can never get close to someone.
mentally or physically.
commitment scares me.
i like everything to be in order.
everything has to be perfect in my eyes.
i have obsessive thoughts running over and over in my head 24/7
I use to cut but not so much anymore.
I alwyas feel empty inside even when im happy.
Im usually never happy.
I dont know if you will help me or not.
but i thought maybe it was worth a try.
Thanks for your time,
Brianna

Answer 1

Dear Brianna,
I will try to help you as much as possible. i used to have the same kind of problem. I was always hiding behind someone or something to keep people from noticing me, but i found something to get me thru it all, i found God. i dont know if you will accept what i believe but i want you to know i am not one of those religious fanatics running around telling people that they are going to hell. i believe in a merciful God who loves me as i am and for who i am. He took away my fear and pain and gave me love and a life worth living. He died for me so that i could live! thats what i call love. i know what you mean by people telling you to just "get over it", well God didnt tell me to get over it, he went with me THRU it, He helped me all the way and i know he will NEVER leave me. and i am so glad i can rely on him, becuz i know if i believed that i was in conrtol id have those problems still, becuase now i know that I can gve any problem to God and he will help me with it. also id probably be dead if it werent for God being in my life. I know He loves me and He loves you too! wether you accept his love or not is entirely your decision. i hope you will choose him!

and even if you dont believe what i do, i would still love to be your friend! if you want i can give you my email and we could talk better. ill send it to you in a messege.

~Jordan

Answer 2

My sister has social anxiety and i understand that its just not something you can get over she had a lot of problems with going to school she used to puke at the thought of it...big crowds and a lot of critisism.....she just couldnt take it...she takes medicine for it and yea she's getting a lot better....you may be a manic depressive more comonly known as "Bi-polar" that would explain all the mood swings....one time i woke up and my sister was crying and all upset and everything turns out she had a panic attack when i was sleeping and my mom wasnt home to confort her so i ofcourse did it.....one thing that helps her a long is she has a great BF that gets her really well and is always there for her no matter what because he has the same sort of prob. .......and he's dislexic......most ppl do think that you can "just get over it" but its not like that and i hope that people will be more under standing in the future. i hope that this helped in any way....maybe just knowing that some one does care and does under stand will be conforting......you could go to the doctor and maybe he could give you paxil...my sister used to be just like you and now it has calmed down and she does take her medicine daily and sees her bf daily so yea they are like her healers..... Good luck...the best to ya!

Answer 3

Hey there, first off, you need help, you said you are depressed but you can deal with it? guess what everything you just said IS depression, yes you should be on medications, it is nothing to worry about, i have been taking them for a few years now and the difference is remarkable.....The only person you need to talk to about this with is your doctor, unless you just want to talk to someone else, like your best friend or whatever. I don't like any of the things you said either while i am depressed but the medications help, you will see a change for the good. Please go see your doctor as soon as you can, Tomorrow would be great!!
I hope you get help and everything gets better for you.

Answer 4

It is very positive that you tried to talk about your depression. This is sounds very positive and you really want to overcome it and I am sure you will. Life is very short and you should always think pistitive and take steps to enjoy life. Do things that makes people around you happy so you will get the positive energy from their reaction...Hope you will overcome it very soon dear :)

Know that you are still in control. You control the depression, not the other way around. Letting the depression get the best of you will undoubtedly make it more difficult to overcome. Remind yourself that you are ultimately in control, and that this is a phase, and that it's not staying forever.

Talk about it. Keeping these issues and feelings inside may make them grow and get worse over time. Therefore, it could be beneficial for you to discuss this with someone, anyone that you trust and can confide in. Friends and family are there to support you in your time of need, and this is an issue where there is no shame into discussing it.

Go outside. Naturally, the environment and nature makes us feel better. The fresh air, the sounds of the birds, the trees, it has a positive affect on us. Take a walk outside, in a park, in a forest, and you will notice how better you will feel. When you are surrounded by the beauty of nature, you will instantly start feeling better.

Move around. The more you move your body, the better you will feel. Do some exercises, or any activity where you are active and moving, and you will notice that your mood will change. Most people that are depressed are people that lack physical activity.

Talk to your Higher Power. No matter what you believe in, take a moment to talk to your God, your angel, or universal spirit that you know is there and hears you. Pour your heart out, and let all your emotions out. Not only you will feel better, but you will certainly start understanding it all better and start getting the answers you are looking for.

Remember to never ever give up. Life isn't always an easy ride, but there is always light at the end of the tunnel; there is always sunshine after a rainy day. It's not the end of it all, and greater things are in store for you down the line :)

http://www.ineedmotivation.com/depressiontips.htm


1) Get Enough Light and Sunshine.

Lack of exposure to sunlight is responsible for the secretion of the hormone melatonin, which could trigger a dispirited mood and a lethargic condition.

Melatonin is only produced in the dark. It lowers the body temperature and makes you feel sluggish. If you are always cooped up in your room (with the curtains closed), it would be difficult to restrain yourself from staying in bed.

This is the reason why many people are suffering from depression much more often in winter than in the other seasons. It's because the nights are longer.

If you can't afford to get some sunshine, you can always lighten up your room with brighter lights. Have lunch outside the office. Take frequent walks instead of driving your car over short distances.

2) Get Busy. Get Inspired.

You'll be more likely to overcome any feeling of depression if you are too busy to notice it. Live a life full of inspired activities.

Do the things you love. If you're a little short on cash, you could engage in simple stuffs like taking a leisurely stroll in the park, playing sports, reading books, or engaging in any activity that you have passion for and would love to pursue.

Set a goal - a meaningful purpose in life. No matter how difficult or discouraging life can be, remain firm and have an unshakable belief that you are capable of doing anything you desire. With this kind of positive attitude, you will attain a cheerful disposition to beat the blues.

3) Take a Break.

I mean it.

Listen to soothing music. Soak in a nice warm bath. Ask one of your close friends to massage you. Take a break from your stressful workload and spend the day just goofing around. In other words, have fun.

4) Eat Right and Stay Fit.

Avoid foods with lots of sugar, caffeine, or alcohol. Sugar and caffeine may give you a brief moment of energy; but they would later bring about anxiety , tension, and internal problems. Alcohol is a depressant. Many people would drink alcohol to "forget their problems." They're just aggravating their conditions in the process.

Exercising regularly is a vital depression buster because it allows your body to produce more endorphins than usual. Endorphins are sometimes called "the happy chemicals" because of their stress-reducing and happiness-inducing properties.

5) Get a Social Life.

No man is an island. Your circle of friends are there to give you moral support. Spending time and engaging in worthwhile activities with them could give you a very satisfying feeling. Nothing feels better than having group support.
http://www.eradicate-depression.com/how_to_overcome_depression.html

Answer 5

Reach out, NOW. Talk to your family or a friend. Give your loved one's the chance to help you. If you don't feel like they can/will help you, Call Crisis Intervention, Keep looking for that help until someone is able to give it to you. You deserve to be happy. Do Not give up!!!!! I'm not a psychiatrist, but you sound in the very least, cliniacally depressed. There is so much help today. Your life does not have to feel so dire.

Answer 6

Well maybe you should talk to your family or psychiatrist or someone like that instead of posting this on Yahoo. Until then if you start getting mad just walk away. Better to walk off then yell and make everyone else mad at you.

Answer 7

I'd encourage you to talk to someone at a community mental health center. If you don't have one nearby, perhaps someone at a hospital can refer you to a doctor.

As far as I know, a general practitioner or family nurse practitioner can prescribe medicine for depression and anxiety, but he/she would probably refer you to someone else for counseling.

I'd encourage you to get help soon. Some people recover from depression for no apparent reason, but recovery tends to be greatly facilitated by appropriate medication and counseling.