What is the negative and postive side of this??
2007-01-18 12:22:16 · 11 answers · asked by TruStar 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I don't know that there is possibly a negative side of being truthful with your child. Even if truth brings some pain (dead beat birth parents, etc.), it is always best to be as open as you can with your adopted children.
Being truthful doesn't mean that you need to expose them to every detail of their birth family right away. With age comes a greater ability to process and deal with that kind of information. The thing to keep in mind is that if you maintain a lie or hide information from your child, you are reinforcing a mindset that adopted children usually have anyway, that mom and dad can't be trusted.
Be open, but be smart.
2007-01-18 12:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by Bucktastic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have adopted twins and i plan to tell them the truth. I hope i give them all the love they could ever want, and i hope i am a good parent. I feel as though in the end, it won't matter, i will still be mom and my husband will still be dad. I see no negatives to allowing them to know and have access to birth records. I think keeping it from them could be worse....if they found out on their own somehow they were adopted, they could feel the parents lied to them their entire life. I think being open and honest is best.
2007-01-18 21:38:02 · answer #2 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they should have acess but the age really does not make a diffrence becuase if the child asks there paretns earlier in life who is or are my real parents and they give the child a BS answer what happens to the childs emotions then?
2007-01-18 20:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by Ohad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as far as the negative sides i dont care what they are but you cant just get pregnant, give birth to a baby, then wash your hands of the situation like nothing ever happened, that baby has a right to at least the birth records. i dont care if the baby was a product of rape, if your beliefs told you not to have an abortion than for adhering to those beliefs you should be obligated that the child can contact you if they choose to,
2007-01-18 23:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they should know about it by the time they are 16 and if they chose to know who their real parents are, they should have the option to birth records! Some adopted kids never want to meet their parents because they gave them up others are dying to see where they got their hair color etc.....
2007-01-18 20:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by jule9104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they should full stop.
the positive side would be that their needs would be respected, the negative side is they would feel a sense of guilt for their parents (adoptive parents) feelings. a great parent is one that supports their child no matter what they feel themselves, they are only 'leant to us all' anyways. we dont own them.
2007-01-18 20:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm adopted and have always wondered about my biological family. It's often hard to deal with...the never knowing.
2007-01-18 20:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by Voice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, without a doubt whenever they request them for medical, psychological, social, economic, and moral reasons.
2007-01-18 20:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by the_md_victor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think they should- once they are a certain age.... because if they were too young and they found their real parent, who didnt want them it could damage them perminantly. but many spend their lives serching for the biological family.
2007-01-18 20:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by NewMommy!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by all means to know where they come from for medical history not the sad part tho to know they werent wanted.
2007-01-18 20:29:52 · answer #10 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋