there's this guy who i've liked forever, i can never get him out of my head, he is amazing....anyway, i never though he liked me, until the other day he kissed me, with his tongue half way down my throat...LOL....but thing is he's asked me to go out with him....but it's really weird, i don't want to...but still i really really really really like him....i don't get it, why don't i? i've never had a bf before. what do i do? what do i say!!!? if i say no to him then he'll think i don't like him...ug....
by the way, he's 17.
2007-01-18 12:17:33 · 11 answers · asked by Annie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
you are probably just scared or nervous, i say go for it
2007-01-18 12:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, he's an idiot. Sorry, but any guy that sticks his tongue halfway down your throat before the second date is going too fast. So he's failed the first test. Don't "go out with him" as in "going steady" until you have had the chance to date him a few times. And since he is so hot-to-trot with the kissing thing, I would definitely make the first date a double-date or a group outing to the movies or something.
Honey, he might be a great guy, but if you want to have better chances for a good first boyfriend experience, then please, do not let him take advantage of you. He should be a gentleman during the "get to know you" boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Do not allow him to go too fast, to paw at your boobies, ... and that hand better not go below the waist. Make sure he is dating you because he enjoys being with YOU, not because he wants to see how far he can get or WHAT he can get. If you have the upper hand and demand respect, then he will respect you. Always remember that. Don't settle for less just because the guy seems "amazing."
Wishing you the best first boyfriend experience ever!
2007-01-18 21:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the reason you feel hesitant/nervous about going out with him is because of his sexual aggressiveness (the big kiss you didn't seem ready for?!) Maybe you are worried that he'll expect more from you ( in a sexual way) more than you are comfortable with. If you really don't want to go out with him don't. You can have a crush ( or even really like him, a lot) but you don't have to date! If you do want to go out, only you are worried about what he expects from you...Talk to him or go out in groups with other friends. If you feel pressure at all, tell him how it makes you feel. If he can't understand then maybe he isn't that great a guy!!
***I dated a couple of losers that didn't take NO for an answer... You have the power to see that coming...If you are uncomfortable stop it early!
2007-01-18 20:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because you know the truth in your gut that even though you are attracted to him he is a jerk.Why did he kiss you first after all this time before asking you out?He wants to see how far you will go.He got past first base you know what honey? He knows you like him and he is having a dry spell and he wants a girlfreind to have sex with.You know this in your gut and you dont want to be used.Seriously be your own bestfreind and go slow on this one.You dont want him saying you are a hoochie.
2007-01-18 23:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have never had a bf before your prob just scared. Its a new thing for you. Try going out a few times with him, if after a few dates you still dont want to date him then listen to your head and dont.
2007-01-18 21:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by angel01182 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um if you never had a bf before, you are just scared. Try it and if it doesn't work out you can always break up with him. It's not the end of the world.
2007-01-18 20:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by jule9104 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe u dont want to cuz thats a sign that if u do soemthing wrong will happen go with ur instincts
2007-01-20 17:10:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably don't want to cause he scared you. Maybe go out with another couple that you know and see how it goes?
2007-01-18 20:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by greenfrogs 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you're intimidated, be a big girl, but don't let him pressure you into anything physically, even that kiss might've been too forward weather u like him or not
2007-01-18 21:09:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i thinkthink you might be scared i would be ! ( but not wawa i want my mommy. like you might not want to get hurt i mean really i would be frightend)Hmmmmm...................take a chance ! meaby you to were ment to be ?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!...You deffiently should take the offer! I mean mebay tomorow he'll be dating a movie star (dout it) you never know take a chance!
2007-01-18 20:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by justmehere 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋